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Emotionally drained
| Sat, 06-16-2007 - 3:38pm |
Hi,
Many of you have been posting about things going on in your teen's life that are causing them lots of stress and tears. How are you as parents handling the stress? My DD is having major issues with both her boyfriend and some girlfriends, and she's upset a lot of the time. I'm finding that I am so emotionally drained that I'm having a really difficult time of it. I finally went to the dr. and got something for anxiety. Anybody else feel like it's taking it's toll on you?
Nancy

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Hi, Thanks for all of the encouragement. It truly is helping in saving me from just being nuts all the time. Today I'm just kind of sad. DD got a nice text (and call) in the middle of the night from bf, and then talked to him today. He always, without fail, calls and/or texts her (he's at beach week). Today she was really calm with him, and I think that sort of unnerves him since she's usually a firecracker. She said he was really gentle on the phone. BUT....I'm sad because while all of this is nice and all, the week before he left, he was hardly around at all, and seemed really busy and distant. I noticed it, she noticed it certainly, and I'm just wondering....when he comes back will it continue? And if that's the case, I think DD is going to be faced w/making a very difficult decision to move on from him. On the one hand, I think that would be a very healthy decision if he continues to not be there for her, but on the other hand, I think she'll find the summer has a lot of free time with nobody around to do things with. Several of the friends she is still friends with have jobs, and two of them those jobs take them out of town for a month. I'd feel so much better about her breaking up with bf if I knew there were girls to be there for her. Two months (until she goes to college) has never seemed SOOOO long and far away!! I wish I could talk to bf's mom. I know her and like her a lot, but I think she is oblivious to all that is going on. I don't know that for sure, but I doubt she realizes that he isn't being the bf he was even two months ago.
You said to trust your gut. My gut says that the bf is very confused right now. He cares for DD, but also wants his freedom...to play and party this summer before he goes away to a military type of college, where life will be very rigid and structured. It will just depend on what wins out...that will make the difference in his behavior towards DD.
Thanks, I have a feeling I'll be here a lot this summer. Nancy
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