Facebook Rant

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Facebook Rant
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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 10:30pm

Am I the ONLY parent who doesn't have PERFECT kids? By reading my FB,

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 11:54pm
Well, where I come from, you celebrate your successes in public, and handle your dirty laundry in private. Facebook isn't a FORUM, it's a POSTERBOARD. Who would you expect to sign the brag book--the mom whose kid got into Harvard, or the mom whose kid got busted?
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 7:05am
All the time. But I also only believe about half of what I read on Facebook, and take that with a grain of salt.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 10:37am
I feel the same as Sabrtooth.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 11:36am
No FB brags wouldn't bother me. After all, you have to consider that FB is PUBLIC--I have a lot of old friends from high school on there who I don't really hang out w/ that much any more. I wouldn't want to put anything embarrassing about my kids or my personal life out there for the whole world to see. That's why we have boards like this, so people can feel free to post all the bad or embarrassing things kids do anonymously and w/o being judged.
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Registered: 12-06-1999
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 2:34pm
I look at fellow parents/friends/relatives facebook pages the same way I look at Christmas letters.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 10:31am
Well, then you'd LOVE my FB brags! lol "Hey, Randy actually PASSED his freshman year!!! WOO-HOO!" rofl Notice I didn't say he passed with straight A's, I just said he passed! :p Or sometimes I'll post something like "Two teens for sale, real cheap". hehe My friends are pretty mellow and get my sense of humor. Like another poster said, sometimes these posts are like Christmas letters. I know there's more going on--they just don't share publicly. :)
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Registered: 04-30-2000
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 2:15pm

But we ARE judged here!!!

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 3:42pm
What people in general post on FB amazes me at times... Couple of younger women I have on my "friend" list post things to their significant others that are much, much more appropriate for a private message rather than a wall message. Thankfully, one of them has toned it down significantly in the past month!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 4:59pm
You can set your privacy settings so that only your friends can see what you post, but as you said, it wouldn't stop all those other friends from spreading the word. I noticed that the CM posted something on the divorce board about how FB is the divorce lawyer's new best friend. I haven't really had occasion to use that myself since most of my divorce cases are uncontested, but one client did bring in something that his STBX had posted saying something about she would kill herself if she didn't have her kids. It might have been a private message to him, but still...people should think about what they put in writing. My friend, who is VP of a major bank, won't have a FB account because she's afraid of anyone at work seeing it, even though I told her she could make it private. Well, don't you know that she went on a cruise w/ her son, his BFF & the friend's family. She was out in a bar w/ the 2 young men, probably dancing, and someone took a picture. So the friend posted it on his FB, another friend's mom (who knew her) saw it and said "Hey, I saw a picture of you from the cruise." So things definitely get around.
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 9:27pm

OH DO they! One of my gf's dds is divorced, and lives in Colorado, with her two kids. Her ex lives there too, and they share custody. DD was home on a visit, and went to her 15th HS reunion, during the course of which, someone took a pic that caught her kissing her old HS bf(now also divorced), with a drink in her hand. When she went back to Colorado, & went to pick up her kids, ex went into a MAJOR rant about her being an unfit mother!!! All because another old friend had posted pics of the reunion, and ex saw her in the background.

In another case, when I was still working, one of the girls at the front desk mentioned that her niece was stupidly posting pics of herself at frat parties she attended at college(this kid is 20). Since it was lunch time, she pulled up the pics to show us, and lo and behold, there in the background of a few shots, is the 18yo DAUGHTER of one of the OTHER employees, beer to lip. And NEITHER kid had any idea who the other was.

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