first kiss

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Registered: 05-15-2006
first kiss
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 8:51am
I just found out that my DD age 13 got her first kiss yesterday. She is really excited about it and I feel happy for her but at the same time I'm really freaking out!!!!! I want to talk to her about it today and I am at a loss for words. She has considered this boy to be her boyfriend for over four months now (although they have never gone anywhere!) I always new that it would happen sooner or later. I am relieved that her first kiss was something special to her but I really wish it didn't happen...not yet anyway.
Suzanne
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Registered: 02-14-2000
In reply to: suzmom2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 9:17am

I just found out yesterday when ds16 called from Germany that he, too, had his first kiss.

Pam
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Registered: 08-31-2004
In reply to: suzmom2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 10:01am

This is an exciting time, a bond between a mother and daughter is truely a blessing that no one understands till you have that. Isn't it great watching her start to become a person. Still being her mom always and first, you can kinda be a little bit of a friend. Let her know you will always be there for her, no matter what, and you will always love her, no matter what.

I do agree that you should watch the situations, just groups of people at this age. We all remember the butterflies in our stomachs at 13 when you see that one guy. I have an 18 year old. She is the light of my life. She has been through some heartache and I wish I could prevent it, but none of us can. I think I could have done some things differently, but hindsight is 20/20. We do the best we can.

Have fun with your daughter, I'm sure you will just get closer and closer. They are a true joy in our lives.

Hugs to you and her.

Andie

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Registered: 07-19-2003
In reply to: suzmom2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 11:01am

Awwwwww....her first kiss!!!! Be grateful her first kiss was with someone she really likes and cares for. I remember my first kiss ... it was awful. LOL. I had my first kiss at 13 in a game of "spin the pen" at school (we didn't have a bottle handy). And I remember feeling delight when the pen pointed to a guy on whom I had a HUGE crush. But then when he kissed me it was the worst kiss ever! It put me off kissing for a couple of years.

Congratulations that your daughter told you about this. That says alot about your relationship that she feels comfortable telling you. Keep the lines of communication open because its a blessing....

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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: suzmom2006
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 12:39pm

Oh boy let the roller coaster begin!!

Last fall, another mom and I took the girls from church on a girls night out to the river. I had the younger girls in my car and they were talking about first kisses. One asked me how old I was. I'm afraid I'm so old I had to stop and think. I told her I was 10 and I was playing spin the bottle so I didn't think that counted but my first real kiss was when I was around 12 with the same guy (so I guess we did it right the first time). I explained that we had been friends all of our lives and it just sort of happened - we never dated or anything but that I was glad it was with him (both times) b/c we are still good friends to this day. The girl that asked was 13 and was the only one that hadn't had her kiss yet. She seemed impressed by my explanation and felt better about not being kissed yet. This was all last fall.

Last week, I went to church to pick up DD (18) from watching a movie with the younger ones. When I got there she couldn't wait to leave but I had something else I had to do so when I got ready to leave, she wasn't. All the girls were in a room together talking. DD kicked me out. They were talking first kiss again. The girl from above is now 14 and still hasn't had her kiss. She told me what they were talking about and said "I have nothing to say on the subject." She looked kind of sad but at the same time sort of proud. She's holding out for a special person.

You should be proud that your DD has had a b/f for a while now and they are just now kissing. They are taking things slow (as they should at their age). Good for her.

Have fun and enjoy this stage. The next few years will get bumpy - enjoy this!!