Forced Breakup

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Registered: 01-21-2003
Forced Breakup
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Thu, 07-11-2013 - 2:52pm

I made my 17 year old daughter break up with her 16 year old boyfriend after a year and a few months...I always knew he was bad news...After reading some vulgar text messages between them I decided that this was heading in the wrong direction i.e. he smokes pots and drinks alcohol none of which my daughter does...Now my daughter and I are in an all out war with each other because she thinks I am wrong and I should listen to her and give him another chance and I will not do that...Please help and give me some advice on where do I go from here...I will have to regain her trust but for now she thinks Im an evil witch...HELP!!!

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 1:00pm

That's tough.  Can you see why she thinks you're wrong in what you did?  While I would want to shield my own children from all the drugs and alchohol and problem people out there I know the reality is I can't!  You may want to back off, have a heart to heart, possibly even apologize and get her side of the story.  I'm sure she has one.  Perhaps you could reach out to the boy's parents about your concerns too if you're comfortable doing that, They are BOTH minors.  

When my daughter was 14 she developed this crush on a school boy she had only met once.  They had exchanged facebook chats and emails plenty of times and it came down to a date we all planned for to not only meet the boy but his parents too, We met for pizza and it was very informal but nice too and I'm glad we did that.  Long story short, they are nolonger that close but they are still fb friends and so is his mom and me there! 

There are moms on this board much wiser than I so I'm sure sure there's plenty of other advice to absorb here.  I hope things calm down for you both.  

 

 

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