Found out my son Drank and Smoked Pot!

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Found out my son Drank and Smoked Pot!
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Sun, 07-29-2007 - 12:39pm

I really need some advice on here. My son is 15. My son's half brother told his dad that my son took a beer out of the ice box when they were camping and drank it. In the same discussion my son also told his little brother that he had smoked pot before. He said he 'tried' pot before. The little brother was afraid that if he told on his big brother that his big brother would hate him forever. His dad promised him he would not tell my son he told me. But....his dad told me. And now I dont have a clue as to handle this. My first thought it is beat the crap out of my son! My next thought is to talk to him about this....ask him about it. But my sons dad has asked me not to let it be know that it was the little brother that told. Dads thoughts are if we let my son know that his little brother 'ratted' him out we will never get anymore info like this again. The little brther is so afraid right now that he will never be friends with his big brother again.

But here is the thing....I just can not do nothing...I need to deal with this some how.

PS...I little history about this....My son just got back in contact with his dad over 14 years. This is the first year to have spent any time with his little brother. His little brother adores my son and he is really worried that he will get mad at him if my son knows where I got all this info.

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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 10:08am
"smoking marijuana is harmless so you shouldn't worry about that. " - Somking Marijuana isn't harmless at all.
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 5:01pm
I think you're way off base. You are generalizing like most people do. I do have a psychological dependence on marijuana but that's just because I like it and I won't lie I use it everyday. It's a great stress reliever after work. But I can go a long period of time without using it and I won't have physical withdrawals but I do it because I enjoy it. I am one who is exception to the rule. I know that some people experience problems with it but not everyone will. And the fact of the matter is successful potheads are very common. They just don't advertise their use because it's illegal and you get people who think it's a demon drug and who judge them. As for the gateway theory it is true that most people who use harder drugs start with marijuana but marijuana doesn't have chemicals in it that makes people want to use those drugs. It's because they're in the drug culture and if they can get marijuana they can probably find other drugs as well from maybe the same people. And after you use marijuana for awhile you develop a tolerance for it and some start to think pot's not enough of a high and want to experience something more powerful. I myself didn't do that but I know those who have. I know it's not completely harmless but it won't kill me and I live a decent life so I guess my point is don't generalize. There's nothing wrong with it. Don't believe the government's propaganda because it is terribly safe. But if you don't want to hear the truth then at least condemn alcohol with it because alcohol is much worse.
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 6:22pm
How old are your teenagers?


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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:05pm

Pam,
Here is a part of post #8 in this thread written by jenni4208.

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I don't know how old she is or anything about her, there isn't any profile either. I have checked to see and don't find anything. Obviously she isn't in agreement with most of the rest of us. Hopefully the OP will take it all with a grain of salt.

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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 8:45am
Yes I had seen that too, Kristie.
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:11pm

Actually I am not generalizing, I believe that you are minimizing the effects of marijuana.

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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 3:55pm

Jenni,

Perhaps for you mj has no detrimental effects, at least none that you can see now.. Wait a few years, believe it or not, the effects can be cumulative.

In college DH and I had a good friend, a music major--classical guitar, who smoked daily. He finally realized it was killing his motivation and gave it up.

DS24 must drive for his work as a civil engineer and told us, "I can't smoke it--they do random drug tests." While in college, I'm sure he smoked some. DS17 has tried it. Here are links to some articles I came across this past week and printed out for him. You'll find them interesting if you care at all about science, or your health.

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/560745

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/07/26/health/webmd/main3102653.shtml

Good luck making your path weed-free!

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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM

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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 4:14pm
I smoke marijuana everyday and I have for a year now. I'm also a teenager and I am not a loser. I think it is basically harmless. I consider myself to be a responsible smoker. Most teenagers probably are stupid with marijuana and most probably shouldn't do it because they'll get themselves in trouble. But I think in this country the persecution of marijuana smokers needs to end. I love marijuana, I think it's a wonderful herb/drug that most would enjoy. I think everyone should atleast have the right to enjoy it. I disagree with most of you and the government that say using it daily is a bad thing. It's wonderful and I don't buy into myths about brain damage and respiratory illness. Mostly because there's no proof. As many government and medical articles that explain marijuana dangers there are as many that say it's harmless. I always say to those who are anti-marijuana (but still drink) they'll get cirrhosis before I suffer from brain damage or lung cancer. The most dangerous thing about marijuana is that it's illegal. And it is a tragedy to see people arrested for it. It really is bad that's why it must be legalized.
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 5:19pm

The kids' posts on this subject vary from entertaining to sad.

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So being high everyday is responsible.

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So you have some unique skill that other teens are incapable of.

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While technically correct, proponents make sure to call weed a "herb". It sounds so nice and healthful, like sage and basil. lol You never see THC or delta-9-tetrahydrocannabinol in their glowing descriptions.

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This comment shows the utter lack of reality typical from smokers who justify their use.

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Justifying weed by a comparison to alcohol is just old and tired. You might as well debate filtered vs. unfiltered cigarettes. Both are equally non-illuminating.

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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 5:20pm

From what I've read, the use of mj in palliative care may be better than the Rx drugs currently used. For that reason, I do not object to its legalization. For short-term medicinal use and for terminally ill patients, the adverse health effects are outweighed by the benefit of pain relief. I would never support legalization for any other reason. I believe cigarettes should be illegal, and even at the time I was a smoker I wished they'd been illegal.

Maybe you don't know anyone who's suffered from depression, anxiety or a psychotic disorder. Maybe you don't know anyone with impaired lung function. As a teenager, I know I didn't. But now at age 51 I know plenty, and I really do not want to see the incidence of these illnesses increase because of pollution, cigarette smoking, marijuana use, abuse, neglect or any other reason. I'll admit I became a lot more health-conscious as I aged, maybe you will, too--and then maybe you won't. Maybe you'll be in denial like all the cigarette smokers who, for years and years, refused to believe smoking was bad for them. Some still do. They think they'll be like the 1/1,000,000 chainsmoking hillbilly who somehow managed to live to age 100!

End of lecture.

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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM