Frustrated with DD's negative attitude
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| Tue, 07-03-2007 - 12:33am |
Hi,
I've been posting quite a bit lately, and so some of you may be familiar with the fact that my DD (18 years old) is having difficulties with her boyfriend, and some of her friends this summer. Throughout all of this, I recognize that although the bf has most definitely caused a good many of the problems, and so have the friends, I'm not naive to the fact that my DD plays a part in the problems too. Take tonight for instance. For once, DD's bf and his best friend initiated some fun plans, and got DD, and two of her friends to go to the movies with the guys. I was happy for her because many evenings this summer she has struggled to find something to do with them, or with other friends. So tonight, I get IMs from dinner saying how she doesn't have the money to pay for her dinner (well she did, but didn't want to spend that much)and then after the movie, she says she is on her way home, the movie was crummy and she froze the whole time. And to top it off, when she didn't want to sit in the backseat of her girlfriend's car, her bf who is 6'4" got irritated with her (he can't sit in a backseat of a small car)and drove home with his best friend, and one of her girlfriends. So now she's unhappy....but gosh.....WHO IS AT FAULT HERE??? Yeah, the bf probably could have been more understanding but since that isn't his thing lately, it's no surprise that he wasn't. But SHE could have been flexible and then she would have found herself driving home with her bf instead of him driving home with another girl. She finds herself miserable, but I get SO irritated with her when she is so negative. Do kids this age truly not see that THEY cause a lot of their own problems? I just want to knock her over the head sometimes (not literally mind you)because this logic escapes her apparently.
Anybody else run into this type of thing with your kids? Nancy

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM
I don't think they see it!
Cheryl, I am SURE you are right....they don't see how they are negative about situations. They just assume the problem is always 'the other person' whomever that might be. And of course it isn't always the other person at fault. I guess it is a life lesson that they have to learn in small steps along the way to growing up.
Nancy