Fullmom...update on son.

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Fullmom...update on son.
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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 5:59am

HI Fullmom,

I saw your message below.

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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 2:05pm
Actually, Con, it DOES make her a very good counselor. With an uncooperative minor, sometimes involving the parents can help because the counselor does NOT always take the parents side--they are impartial. Sometimes that is enough to open a dialogue with the kid. But for adults, or near adults, there has to be a rapport between the counselor and the patient, and the patient has to be on board. It takes a good, honest counselor to admit that rapport is not happening. I WOULD take Dh, and go see her, to see what she has to say about your options. Sometimes, if the actions of a person can't be fixed, what CAN be changed is the REACTIONS by the rest of the family. That is the basis for services like Al-Anon.
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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 2:40pm

hmmmmm, well for starters I'd get rid of the drug counselor.

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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 3:06pm

Conmama, one more thing.

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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 8:41pm

Pam, now see what your son did would result (based on our deal with our boys) in losing the car altogether.

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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 9:11pm

Conmama, I've been thinking about you and your DH for the better part of my afternoon.

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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 7:33am

Hi Fullmom (and Sabrtooth),

I've beenin and out all week, mostly out and not on the PC.

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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 3:39pm

you know here's the thing.

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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 3:43pm

oh and hugs hugs hugs and more hugs.

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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 4:01pm

for those of you who might be interested, go to collegeconfidential.com and log in as a user, go to parents forum and read the post

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Thu, 06-30-2011 - 4:06pm

oh conmama, you so need to read the post on collegeconfidential.com, especially the posts about drug testing....

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