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|Sun, 07-04-2010 - 10:54am|
Ds is 14 1/2, just out of 8th grade. He has this GF who he's been "going out" with on & off for the past maybe 2 year--they have probably gone out & broken up at least 8 times. His dad & I are so sick of her--not that she's not a nice girl, but we don't like the drama and I personally think he'd be better off w/ someone else. I am glad he's going to high school next year where he will be meeting a lot of new girls.
Anyway, here are some examples that make me think they are not going to last the whole summer (they have only been going out a month this time). Fri. night we are in the car on the way for him to sleep over at his dad's house and she wants him to go w/ her to watch fireworks in the next town. They are leaving in 10 mins. He says "I'll call you back." I said to him--just tell her you can't go cause you're on your way to your dad's to sleep over. He said, I will, but she'll be mad. So I guess he is supposed to drop whatever he's doing to be w/ her. Today they are going into Boston w/ her family to see the fireworks/Boston Pops concert--it's at night but in order to get a space on the grass, you basically have to spend all day sitting around--not my cup of tea and I don't think he really wants to do it either, but he gave in to what she wants to do.
What is even more bothersome is that basically all his friends are girls--he really does not hang out w/ any boys outside of school, which she obviously knows since these girls are her friends too, and now she is becoming jealous of him being w/ the other girls when she's not around. So is he supposed to spend every day w/ her and have no other friends? I really don't want to encourage that at his age anyway--I don't want them to be that serious--seeing each other a couple of times a week is enough in my opinion. The plus is that she lives on the other side of town, too far to walk, so he can't just go over to see her whenever she wants. He thinks all girls are this needy & clingy but I really don't think that's the case. I really hope he gets tired of her soon.