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|Fri, 07-26-2013 - 12:14pm|
You'd think I'd be used to this since it's the 2nd time around! DD is 24 and DS is almost 18 but he will be going into senior year. He has been driving for about a year so I am used to that by now. Now it's more going places by himself. He drive around our area but he really doesn't know his way out of the suburbs. We live in a suburb of Boston (about 30 mins. away or more with traffic) and the highway system is very confusing. He doesn't know the routes & what goes where. I told him to study a map so he'd have a better idea of things. One day I took him for his last pediatric checkup (and they make parents go) but we took 2 cars because then he was going to his father's house. I told him that right at the end of the street there was the ramp to the highway that he was supposed to go on to get to his dad's and somehow he missed that ramp (and I don't know how cause it was right there) and ended up going in the opposite direction and getting off the highway and since it was so complicated for me to try to explain to him how to get back in the right direction (since we were both on cell phone, which he's not supposed to do anyway) I ended up driving to where he was & showing him. I think I am getting him a GPS for his birthday!
And this week he is going to Boston twice (once on Mon. and tonight again) for concerts. On Mon. I told him how to take public transportation there and I ended up picking him up at the subway station near home--tonight he is parking at the subway. Hopefully that will go ok. So I am just getting used to him being able to go to Boston w/ friends and yesterday he says to me "Can I go to New York w/ S?" (his friend who is a girl--that's not an issue cause he's gay) of course no details--um, where in NY? She apparently has relatives who live in the good part of Brooklyn. But since he hasn't been to NYC in 6 yrs or so, I'm sure he doesn't remember how big it is, he doesn't know that Brooklyn is some distance from Manhattan, he's so clueless--he says "oh we'll take the train" not knowing that it really costs about $50 each way to take the train--uh, more like the $15 bus I think. So I'm not sure about that one. then he adds "Oh and for our senior trip (what senior trip, I say, like that's required?) we want to go to California. Hilarious! And yet I know kids who are backpacking in Europe after high school. I remember my cousin, who lives on Long Island, was nervous about her kids taking the train into NYC with their nanny and her DH saying "you know, there are kids who actually live and go to school in NYC." So it must run in the family.