Going to college next year

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Going to college next year
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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 12:39pm

I was wondering if anyone has a child who had poor study habits in HS, but did well in college? My DD is currently applying to colleges. She has been LAZY throughout HS. No one seems to notice this (or care) except me. She NEVER studies or prepares for anything and is a terrible procrastinator. She is not a bad student (she's a fairly good student, actually), but she would rather spend 4 hours at her boyfriend's and make a B on an exam, than spend 1 hour studying and get an A. I just don't see how this translates to college in any way. She took the ACT one time and got a 30. That is a good score, but not good enough to get top scholarship $. (The college she wanted required at least a

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 2:02pm
Mine hated HS and did minimum; no 30 on ACT but got in to the U of his choice and is doing fine (not great, but no worse than HS). The saving grace in his case is he has a gf that he met a year ago (he's a soph) and she's a serious student, so they're always studying together if he wanted any time with her. He didn't get a great scholarship but has maintained it for a year so far, and now feels he 'gets it' as far as what college is like and is determined to do well.

But he, too, was the type like your dd - went to his written driver's test taking the test cold; you need an 80 to pass, he got an 80.

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 2:29pm

LOL. Mine got an 80 as well. That's exactly what I'm talking about, but I am

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 2:51pm

Oh I just wrote a longish reply and lost it somehow.

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 3:01pm

*Waving hand furiously* I, too, have a 'smart but lazy' ds. Like your dd - when he was in high school he pretty much did the bare minimum to keep us off his back. By junior year he was pulling mostly C's with a couple D's. He did score a 29 on his ACT first time, no prep class or anything. We told him that if he really wanted to go away to school he'd have to prove himself senior year and that year he did pull pretty much straight A's so it was obvious he wasn't a stupid kid. He went away to school and actually did OK first semester - ended up with a 3.0. He told us later that he just went to class - never studied outside of class and with the exception of writing his English papers the night before never did any written work. He went back to school second semester after some personal issues that happend over Christmas. Met a girl a few weeks later and stopped going to class. Failed all his classes except the one that he had with her, in which he pulled a B. I won't bore everyone again with the whole story but he took the next year off. Went to the local community college last year and failed 2 classes first semester. One was Psych 100 - a big part of their grade was keeping a weekly journal and he just didn't do it. The other was a entry level criminal justice class and again there was outside work required that he didn't do. He did 'OK' 2nd semester but is putting off school for now. He knows that at this point he's just not ready to put forth the effort. He says he'll go back some day but I think he's going to have to find something that he's really passionate about before he's willing to make the effort on the 'grunt' courses. As far as the partying - yes, he did a lot of that. He was pretty 'straight edge' in high school but did a lot of drinking and smoking pot once he went away to college. Now at 21 he's settled down in the partying area quite a bit and is working full time and living at home.

College is a whole different world than high school, especially if a young person is away from home for the first time. Your dd may have the natural intelligence like Justin to bumble through a semester or two of gen eds and get decent grades without putting forth any effort but the classes are going to get tougher pretty quickly. And she may be able to step up to the challenge and put forth the effort to get those B's. But I wouldn't expect her to go from not studying at all in high school to spending the 3-4 hours a day that many colleges recommend/require. Have you sat down and discussed your concerns with her? Will you be paying for school or will she take out loans? I'd be sure to make it very specific about what you mean in 'keeping her grades up', whether it's a 3.0 or whether it's nothing less than a B or whatever. Good luck. There's also a Parents of College Kids board here at Ivillage you should check out.

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 3:08pm

Lots of kids who are smart and unmotivated, smart and untreated ADD, smart and lazy, and smart hard workers, do great in HS, and fall off the rails in college.

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 4:30pm

Very true! There's no point in throwing away money on potential alone. She does have a college fund that's got enough in it to cover one yr of college (more or less) even if she gets no scholarships or aid at all. We've been putting $ in that since she was born and that's pretty much what she has to work with. If she messes around and loses scholarship $ or the college fund runs dry, then what she does after that is up to her. I was hoping that she would get enough $ to have everything covered for all 4 years when added to her college account, but I guess we will see. She puts things off til the last moment and the early deadline is in Nov. Maybe she will get off her butt the closer that date gets.

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 4:41pm

Oh...I meant to say "Thanks" to jlsjjsmom for the link to the College Student board! I read through some of the topics there. I think it will be helpful :) .

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 5:50pm

I am just wondering, does anyone else have a smart but lazy kid who managed to keep on track in college in the face of parties, no parents, no curfew, and all sorts of other "being away from home the first time" distractions....??

I've found more often that history tells the future, but my dds have had a few friends who were not that motivated in HS who managed to turn it around in college. With my own dds, they stayed fairly true to form. Older dd was smart but not wildly motivated. In HS she managed to keep top grades because the classes didn't require as much effort. In college, she has had decent, but not stellar, grades (I think her GPA is currently 3.4, which is probably slightly better than it looks, given that she has a science major). I think she realizes that she needs somewhere around there to get into grad school, if she decides to go. Dd2 is no smarter, but way more organized. That helps SO much in college.

I completely empathize with you...

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 6:15pm

Yes, that's the case. She wants to major in Biology. I'm hoping she did OK on the exam, but I DO have to learn to let it go. And yeah, I've heard the "But everybody failed that test! It was SO HARD" excuse. Uh-huh. I know some of the kids in

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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 7:34pm

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