Going to college next year

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Going to college next year
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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 12:39pm

I was wondering if anyone has a child who had poor study habits in HS, but did well in college? My DD is currently applying to colleges. She has been LAZY throughout HS. No one seems to notice this (or care) except me. She NEVER studies or prepares for anything and is a terrible procrastinator. She is not a bad student (she's a fairly good student, actually), but she would rather spend 4 hours at her boyfriend's and make a B on an exam, than spend 1 hour studying and get an A. I just don't see how this translates to college in any way. She took the ACT one time and got a 30. That is a good score, but not good enough to get top scholarship $. (The college she wanted required at least a

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 11:46pm

I'm glad to hear that some kids have been able to get on the right track after they start college. If it involves failing and moving home, so be it , but hopefully as the time gets closer, everything will work out.

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 10:13pm

I would say that kids earn the right to make their own decisions when they have shown a certain level of maturity.

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 9:16pm

I didn't say she was a horrible kid.

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 5:27pm

I know. That's kinda why I started the thread, to see if anybody else's kid was doing this sort of thing...or if it was just me.

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 1:20pm

I seem to remember her spending all evening at her bf's house, getting home @9 pm (after I called and told her to come home)

Last year, she got a 68 on an exam after deciding to go out with friends the night before instead of studying 

She works at a fast food place, but generally only gets about about 6-8 hours/wk. 

she is welcome to work in his shipping dept part-time and could probably get about twice that many hours, but she doesn't want to work with a bunch of "old people"...boohoo. (plus it's about a 20 min drive) 

Frankly, I see a trend here that goes far beyond "lazy student".

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Sun, 09-11-2011 - 10:59am

YOu might be surprised--it depends on what she studies, but at the beginning of college everybody is taking the easiest courses, plus some electives, so maybe she'll breeze through still--but when the classes start to get more advanced, then she'll be in for a shock.

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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 11:12pm

"I don't know if this happens to every lazy student, but shame was a huge factor for me."

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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 8:41pm

I was a lazy student in HS. I remember saying several times, "why should I work for the A when I can get a B by doing nothing?" I did well on the SATs and what were then called achievement tests, and got into some good schools. But my first semester in college, I did really badly and was horrified. For the first time, I realized I'd have to work at it. I have to say that most of my peers had much better study habits than I did. It was a steep learning curve.

I don't know if this happens to every lazy student, but shame was a huge factor for me. I had always prided myself on being the smart kid who didn't apply herself, when all of a sudden, I no longer had the evidence of this, because my first semester grades were so poor. I felt like the mediocre student who didn't belong. So bad grades were a huge motivating factor for me to get my act together.

For some kids, it's guilt that their parents are borrowing money to send them to school, likely depriving themselves and possibly siblings.

But if you don't think either of these scenarios are likely to apply to your DD, then I would just encourage her to go to a state school or community college until she shows some discipline.

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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 10:04am

You are talking scholarships but are you also considering loans?

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Sat, 09-10-2011 - 1:31am

The school with the best reputation for sciences in the state is private and has a tuition of $35,000, so yeah, THAT'S out! We are looking exclusively at in-state public universities. The largest state school is about $24,000/yr total

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