Good Girl, Big Mistake

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Registered: 01-03-2006
Good Girl, Big Mistake
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 8:51am

My 16yo DD is a good girl. Decent grades, but could do better. Hangs with a nice group. Never in any trouble. On Friday she went on a school trip for the weekend. Friday evening, we got a phone call from a store security department that she and her friend were picked up for shoplifting. I am horrified and embarrassed!!!! We had to pick her up from the trip that night (a 2-hour drive each way). Monday morning we have to meet with the principal to determine how many days she will be suspended.


I know that this was just bad *teenage* judgement. DH and I have been discussing what kind of punishment there should be in addition to the suspension and we really don't know what to do. She is very upset and remorseful. She was in a cell at the store until one of the chaperones picked her up. She was embarrassed that the kids at the school saw her leave with her parents. Everyone at school will know and she will

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Registered: 01-03-2006
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 7:43am

I thought about having us pay her back, but I'm not sure. The school trip cost $160 which we won't get back, the security department took her wallet with over $100 (another story, we haven't gotten it back yet!!!), and now the $180 fine. It was quite an expensive mistake she made.


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Thu, 12-01-2005 - 9:27am
I don't understand what right the security department had to take her personal belongings & I hope you are following that one closely. I know it seems like an expensive lesson but the cost is really quite low if this stops her from ever doing something this stupid in the future. My son had to pay us $1000 (30% of the total cost) for legal fees 3 yrs ago so his entire summer earnings from his first job came to us. Then 2 yrs later he did another stupid thing & damaged my car. Again, we made him pay towards the repairs ($5000 - 50% of the costs. So he has been broke for most of the last 3 yrs but I believe he has finally learned his lesson in note following his friends or letting his emotions get out of control. I never wanted him to pay everything but felt he needed to understand the costs of his actions. He doesn't know but we have put $2500 into a separate account for him. Once again, I'm sorry u & your DD have to go through this. Dee

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