Good news!

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Sat, 09-01-2012 - 10:16pm

Well, they're not teens anymore, but "old" 21 year olds, but I kind of feel like this board is "home." So here goes.....

I think I told you folks that SIL Tim got a job in his field a couple of weeks ago, but at a lower apprenticeship wage rather than the starting salary that Tim was hoping for.  Well, yesterday when he came home from his second week of work he was flying high!! The boss is "happy with what he's seeing" and offerred him $1 an hour increase in pay with the promise of another $1 an hour around the first of the year if the owner continues to be happy with his work and progress in his skills. Tim is floating these days!

Nicki has gone from relief (no guaranteed hours but actually getting 3 shifts a week) to two guaranteed shifts a week plus whatever she's able to pick up at the nursing home. It sounds as though the Director of Nursing is working on coaching her along in her nursing skills and is helping her work on her confidence.  She's kind of liking working part time because it gives her more time to spend with Wyatt who is now 13 months old, not only walking but RUNNING and starting to talk too.

The kids have talked to us about possibly staying here until the spring, while they save money as much as possible before they move out.  Their goal is to buy a small starter home in the spring and given the number of foreclosures in the area, if they buy something with the intention of it being a "starter" they just might be able to do that.  A lot of young couples in our community start out buying older, small 2 or 3 bedroom homes that they stay in for 5-7 years, then move up to something a bit bigger when they can afford it. In fact, we have an elderly neighbor who plans to put her house that is just that on the market next spring.... would be perfect if it worked out.  If not, oh well, they will find something....

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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 7:59am
Truly an awesome outcome.
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Re: Good news!
Thu, 09-06-2012 - 11:17pm

Some of you might not know what Tim has overcome in order to even get a technical diploma.  He was born drug addicted and spent time in NICU to come off of the crap his mom injested while she was pregnant with him.  His father was in prison more than he was out, and mom did a number of stints in rehab before Tim was 15.  He attended 14 schools before he was in the 9th grade and moved to our community.  He has a fairly significant learning disability. He pretty much raised his younger sister in spite of the fact that she's only 4 years younger than he is.  He really struggled to get his high school diploma and only managed to graduate because he went to an alternative school. When he was 17 his mom went to prison for 7 months, pretty much leaving him to fend for himself - although he ended up living with us then.

Looking back, I'm not sure what we were thinking to allow our college bound daughter to date him when they were 15 years old - other than he has always treated her like a queen, they get along well and really seem to care about each other. Initially we didn't think the relationship was going to last very long, just because they were so young. He became very close to our family and quickly seemed to prefer to be at our house rather than anywhere else.  I think he liked the stability vs. the chaos that is his mother's home.

In any case, the fact that Tim made an effort to go to school after high school at all is a huge achievement.  The fact that he's a good, reliable husband and father is amazing, given the examples he was given. He could very easily followed his parents into the penal system, but instead he's gotten a technical degree and a good job that he not only likes but is apparently good at.  Yeah, I'm a little proud of him!