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grad night
| Tue, 05-30-2006 - 1:44pm |
Well grad night is almost here. Its on Thursday night. I am so nervous,scared etc. Just a reminder: dd (16) going to bf grad (18) THis night is coming up too quickly!!...lol She is very excited to go and I am happy for her that she's happy. I'm just worried about what happens after. She says they are not sexually active, but I really wonder.
Tonight she's invited to his actual cap and gown ceremony. That doesn't bother me at all.
Oh by the way, I took her to the doctor last week and put her on the pill. She hasn't started yet cause she has to wait for her period to start. That was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
Tonight she's invited to his actual cap and gown ceremony. That doesn't bother me at all.
Oh by the way, I took her to the doctor last week and put her on the pill. She hasn't started yet cause she has to wait for her period to start. That was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

I wish I had some great advice for you, but all I can say is I sympathize with you. Our kiddos grow up so fast, and it's so hard to give them the freedom they want and need, and to balance that with the need to keep them safe! FWIW it sounds like your DD has a good head on her shoulders, and that you and she have a comfortable enough relationship that you can talk about these things.
(((HUGS)))
Sue
I also went with my DD to get birth control pills when she was 16. It was very difficult and, as you say, the hardest thing to do. I lost alot of sleep over that one. I also felt very much like a failure - I couldn't get DD to understand why sex at 16 was a mistake. I realize now that she's very strong-willed and would have done it with or w/o my knowledge and I'm thankful she had the courage to come to be and ask for help.
I also want to let you know that less than a year after becoming sexually active DD realized she wasn't ready for that type of relationship. She and b/f are still together but they spend a whole lot more time at home with parents know than before. I don't think he likes her decision but he accepts it. That has helped me to forgive alot of his past mistakes. She's 18 now and still tells him that mom won't allow them alone together in our house or his. I would and she knows that but she doesn't want to be alone in that setting with him. She's going to leave for college in the fall and will be at the same school with him. She and I will have to discuss how she's going to handle this situation being away from home with him. I honestly would feel better if she were back on the pill b/c I know that sometimes situations get away from young adults but this is her decision.
I'm sure you will discuss this with DD and stress to her that the pill will not be active until a full month after she starts taking it. Is she going to be out with him after graduation? My DD went with her b/f to the school's after grad party so it was very well chaperoned. He had one at his uncle's field a few nights later. She was not allowed to go to that one at all simply b/c of the amount of alcohol that I knew would be present. If you aren't comfortable with her going to any type of "celebration" with him don't let her go. DD couldn't understand how come I took her to get the pills and knew she wouldn't get pregnant (99% sure) and still wouldn't let her go with him wherever and whenever. I told her that protecting her from pregnancy and condoning/approving her having sex at 16 were entirely 2 different things and that I would still try to protect her to the best of my ability. I also told her that I realize when teens want to they will find a way but I didn't have to make it easy for her. I worked with the youth director at our church to host a couple of abstience programs for the kids and I think one of those is what finally made her realize she was too young. I'm extremely proud of DD for being mature enough to ask for birth control and then for being mature enough to realize she made a mistake and to take action to correct it.
Good Luck and try not to worry. I know it's impossible but you did what's best for your DD. Continue to do that and she'll be okay!!