Great Night with DD! (Long)
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| Mon, 03-06-2006 - 2:54pm |
DD and I had a great night this weekend and for those of you who have heard my many difficulties with her this past year, I just wanted to share something good for a change.
Some recent background: on Thursday dd asked if she and a friend (not to crazy about this friend, either by the way) could go to the volleyball game after school and watch their friends. I let her go but when I came to pick her up and 6:30 p.m. the game had obviously been over for sometime (maybe a half hour) and everything was locked up. I had not heard a word from dd and when I called her cell phone she did not answer immediately. Luckily, she called me back shortly and said they had walked over to Taco Bell (within walking distance) after the game. They met me back at the school where I did not completely lose my cool! I waited until I had dropped off her friend before I calmly explained that it was not acceptable not to be where I expected her to be, not to call before she left the area, etc. I reminder her of the trust issues we still have. DD was not too happy but seemed to accept that she had blown it. On Friday night I let her go to H.'s house because H. was leaving the following a.m. to visit her brother in Kentucky who is on r&r furlough from Iraq. Privately, I had talked to H.'s mother who told me they were also going to send her to Idaho afterwards to stay with her cousins for some time, although I'm not sure if this will actually happen. It is H. mother's pattern to talk about things she will do but never follow through. H. doesn't want to go, and H always gets what H wants. Unfortunately, H.'s dad, who is the parent who stays home, is very ill. Later when I called dd she said H's mother could bring her home at 10:30 pm. But it turns out H.'s mother went somewhere to get suitcases and either forgot or the girls didn't tell her; in any case I went to pick up dd. She actually apologized that I had to come out and get her and that H.'s mom had not brought her home by 10:30 as previously agreed. I think she was worried she had blown it again. I told dd, "These things happen." and she was so relieved I was being so understanding. Obviously, this was not as big of a deal to me but dd wasn't so sure and I could tell she was worried a little...
Dh and 10ds went on an overnight scout camping trip Saturday night. Meanwhile, 16ds had plans to attend the high school's battle of the bands. I advised dd earlier in the day, "Well, I guess its just you and me tonight..." and not only did she not make plans, any plans, she actually declined an invitation from a friend who asked her to go with her to the battle of the bands. So dd and I decided to, of course, go shopping. Dd was in unusually great spirits, laughing and joking with me like "old times". We had her favorite, In 'n Out Burger for dinner (not my favorite, and I offered an actual 'sit down dinner' but hey, whatever...) and drove home. Sometime while I stopped in at Office Max and dd waited in the car, she had received a call from H. letting her know she had arrived in Kentucky. When we got home she excitedly told me that she had to meet H. on the computer. I expected the evening to be over and started to settle in with a movie I had rented. A little bit later, dd comes out and says, "Let's go rent a scary movie!" and off we went to rent something I would never in a million years watch myself but did so just to hang with dd. We had a great evening together and I was encouraged to see that maybe in the future we might have more like this, although its doubtful they will happen very often as she is going to be spending more and more time with friends, but hey I'll take what I can get...and we didn't argue ONCE!

Yayyy! Sounds like a fun weekend; I'm glad to hear things seem to be improving between you and your DD.
I hope the rest of the week goes just as well.
Julie
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