Guess I'll Be Leaving Now
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| Mon, 10-10-2005 - 5:11pm |
I don't think I have time to re-fresh everyone, so look to Son Leaving and Update. I think I'll have to get off pretty soon.
And I honestly don't know what happened.... I can only suspect....
Today at a little past 1, I had just let DS-16 off grounding of the internet just simply because it was a holiday. On school days he's still grounded cause that's time that he could use to pass his classes.... he's had a huge downfall in that area since last year... if anyone remembers, last year he kicked butt and did so well.
Friday I found drugs in his room. Last Wednesday the police came cause I thought he'd run away, but he was just out back.
Today at past 1 today, he was on the internet when I caught him in a lie. I told him that at 4 p.m. he was grounded off the net for the rest of the night. He went ballistic, picking up our speakers and just banging and smashing them, over and over. Then he did the same thing to the mouse. Then he went to his room, came back and and sat down at the comp like nothing was wrong. I informed him that he was now grounded off the net for the entire day. He went even more ballistic. Began throwing things around, threw the mouse out the back door into the dog pen. Then he packed a bag and left. I went out the door and told him he had 5 minutes to reconsider and come back in.
I called the police. I had earlier been railed at by the cops because I didn't call within the first 3 minutes of his leaving, no matter if I knew if he had actually left or not. This time they said it would be 24 hours before they could take a report!! Then told me to call back in an hour if he hadn't returned. He hadn't, so I did. By then, I had taken his guitar, amp and stereo out of his room as punishment. I called the officer back and told him that I think after all these latest times, it would be better if he was arrested for a night at least. He said no, they couldn't do that. I then made the horrible mistake of telling him I'd found drugs in DS's room and I still had them here.... would that get him arrested for a night or two and let him think about things?
This %#$^*&*& told me that here's the problem, mam. If we pick him up and he says it's your drugs, then we come to your house and arrest you. I said, then I'm flushing them down the toilet right now. He said that was up to me.
I think I've lost my mind... but at the very least, when they bring him home, I'm disconnecting the internet and I won't probably ever see any of ya'll again. And I'll sure miss you.
Sorry for being such a fricking downer. I guess I'll go flush them down now. Doesn't this really suck?
Sorry again,
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Well, I didn't flush them. I was going to... I don't know why I didn't right when I posted the last one.
And then the cops came... beating on my door like there's no tomorrow. Literally BEATING on the door, BAM BAM BAM, over and over....yelling at me... I answered and they said "You said there were drugs, now give them to us." I was shaking all over. I still am...
I can't quit crying..... now he's going to jail for sure. I literally can't quit crying. I should have flushed them, huh? Or at least told the cops I did....
I don't fricking know anymore...
Thanks for just listening. They'll be bringing him home soon, I'm sure, and then I'm disconnecting the internet.
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cat_momma,
He may be arrested, but unless you handed over cocaine or heroin, it's doubtful that he's going to get sent to jail. Marijuana, even in large amounts, usually buys a year or two of probation and community service. Even though posession of harder drugs can result in jail time, it likely won't if this is his first offense. Secondly, I highly suggest you contact a lawyer right now. You didn't have to give the cops those drugs, and had you refused to, they would've
Hey Wolverine,
Yes, this was his first offense. I probably didn't have to hand over the drugs, but to tell you the truth, their yelling and screaming scared the hell out of me. And they turned out to be the same 2 cops who showed up about 3 weeks ago and raked me over the coals. I'm almost glad I didn't flush the pills cause I don't think they would have believed me.
I'm much calmer now... at least I'm through crying hysterically... I shouldn't post when doing that....
Thanks for replying and your advice, it sure helps,
remember me?
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Aww cat - I don't know what to say.
To Wolverine: the pills were 2 darvocet and 2 acetominophen - the last one increases the effect of the first.
Pam, I started out over a year ago on the troubled teens board, and I read it everyday... I just have developed more of a rapport, or at least a comfort level, with everyone here, that's why I haven't posted there.
He called at midnight from a pay phone 30 minutes away. I picked him up, fed him and sent him to bed. But first, when he got in the car, I told him I was driving around the block and he could listen and agree with me or I would complete the circle and drop him back off. I told him that I had taken his guitar, amp and stereo out of his room and I was having the internet cut off.... he had to accept and not come home and start destroying our house anymore. He agreed, with little grunted yes's...
I feel alot better. My eyes are swollen beyond belief. I'm worried they will go to school tomorrow and arrest him. I still haven't heard from CPS, since they went to visit him there last week. The woman told him she just couldn't get a hold of me. I find that so very very hard to believe. Everyone I know has left a message on my machine, at least, last week.
And lastly, everytime I think my world, and my son, have fallen apart, I find someone else in a worse position. I hadn't talked to DS's best friend's mom in a couple of months...called her tonight... her boy has lost 20 pounds in 2 months. He doesn't do drugs and that's a fact. They believe it might be leukemia or some such. (there are other symptoms also) And then I feel so very lucky that this is all *I'm* going through. They are going for tests tomorrow and should know something within the week.
Please pray for them.
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And just to add.... I DON'T wanna disconnect the internet! Yes, it was the point of contention today, (and a few other times) but tomorrow it could be something else... so I don't know what to do. I told him I was disconnecting it. Any way out of this? (I'm going to hangman for tonight's distraction....)
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cat,
I don't have much to add in the way of advice - just hang in there and please come here to vent when you need to. Disconnecting the internet will punish YOU more than your dh - don't do that to yourself unless it's absolutely necessary.
Can you password protect your account? That way you can get on and he can't.
Prayers to you, your dh and your friend ...
jt
Wow.
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