Had to be the worst spring break ever

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Had to be the worst spring break ever
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 1:55pm

To start off, my dh came home for the weekend - went over to a friends house, had a few beers, drove home and totalled his truck. He's lucky to be alive - hit a tree and flipped the truck. We won't know his BAC for a few weeks but he was charged with DUI (they did a blood test at the hospital - no breathalyzer or field sobriety tests).

We had that Nor'easter - we were lucky and only lost power for maybe an hour Monday morning - the rest of our town lost it for days. A bunch of dd's friends, including bf, stayed over Monday night. BF checked his myspace on dd's laptop and dd ended up reading a message from some other girl. Something to the effect that he was sorry for hitting on her, he's not like that, he has a gf, and here's my number and he kinda liked her. DD was quite upset and kicked him out of the house. He continued to lie to her for 2 days and tell her she was over-reacting. His family finally asked what was going on and he told them what he did. His family went ballistic on him for doing that to her. He finally owned up to holding and/or playing with the girl's hand and kissing her on the cheek - because he's a gentleman. Bf's bestfriend and dd's bestfriend are dating and the set the 2 of them back up on Thursday - where bf asked dd to forgive him and take him back. Sadly she said yes. Friday another friend of their's called dd's cell and said bf wasn't being honest with her and right when he was getting to the details, dd's cell died. DD doesn't want to know. Friday she also found out that he lied to her about drinking sometime last week. All of her friends have had it.... I've done good, I've stayed out of it....

Saturday is when BOTH of ds's ear drums ruptured and Sunday was just miserable bc dd and I were fighting - mostly I think she's on edge bc of the mess w/ bf and is worried that all her friends are ticked at her.... I tried to talk to her Sat. night - but that didn't go well - she was on the defense.

I did AWESOME during the breakup and since, you guys would be so proud :D My opinion has yet to surface and I have continued to be friendly with him. Do I still stay out of it? He's been really remorseful and called me through it all when she wouldn't talk to him.... but he's still lying to her :( and she knows it....




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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 2:13pm
It's hard not to try to 'fix' your kids' broken hearts but I think you are doing the right thing by staying out of it unless your dd asks for your opinion/advice.
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 2:18pm

That's the thing - she keeps asking me!!! The 2 and a half days they were broken up, she wanted anyone to make the decision for her - it just so happened to be like a million to 3 (ha their bestfriends and the boyfriend). Nope she didn't do a thing Friday - blew up at the bf for lying about the drinking and decided she didn't want to know what their friend knew that she didn't..... she just doesn't want to think about it and wants to go back to being happy :( but she's not...

Ahhhh so if she asks I can let it rip? lol




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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 3:21pm
Sounds like you had quite a week! I'd definitely stay out of it and not bad-mouth the bf, even if she asks--but I shouldn't really talk because I'm having a really hard time handling these situations myself! I had no idea that having a teen would be this dramatic. I must have conveniently forgotten my own teen years.
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 4:10pm

I think I'm much more worried about your dh, and the DUI charges.

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 4:20pm

Ha ya the DUI is def. my biggest concern although I don't think it will be a DUI when the tests comes back. He had 4 beers over a 4 hours period, drove 3 hours after his last beer, and the did the blood test 2 hours after he wrecked the truck. Just bites because since it was written up as such, his license will be suspended automatically regardless of the fact we don't know his bac :-/ To fight the suspension we need to hire a lawyer - again, we don't even know if it's a dui - it's insane...

I've just been the shoulder to cry on - no advice has come out of my mouth and oh boy, believe me, as much as I like the guy - I'm w/ my flesh on this one!! He lied to me about it too (he messaged me voluntarily and swore he wouldn't do that, she was misinterpreting and he would never hurt her), but I'm not holding it against him. Or atleast I'm faking it lol....

Actually my biggest concern is my poor ds's ears - poor baby looks so miserable....




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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 7:23pm

How on earth did your DS's eardrums burst? Poor kid. What does the doctor say? Do they heal themselves?

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