"Hangin'"

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Registered: 04-26-2007
"Hangin'"
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 3:51pm

Does your teen (ds, dd or ss, sd) go "hang out with friends" after school? If so how often? Every day? For how long?

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 11:43am
You are right that ss is home for dinner but the "rule" is : He must do his HW after school (we have had too many issues in the past with letting him put it off till after dinner) after his HW and chores are done, then

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 11:53am
Maybe I should clarify by saying that ss doesn't just "hang" he skateboards. So most of his time is spent doing that. He will occasionally go to his buddies house to play video games or whatnot, but as far at the literal "hanging out doing nothing" that doesn't really happen.

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 12:05pm
I have the same thing w/ my dd. She is in 8th grade and 13. She also plays bball and has practice everyday at 4 so it's kind of complicated bcuz she gets out of school at 2. I usually pick her up at 2 then take her back at 4 then pick her up at 6. She also has lots of activities, youth group and dance class or wants to attend an intermural game at least once a week, so it becomes a major logistics problem. My dh works out of town a lot and I am a sub teacher but don't work every day. I feel that she should come home more days than not but it is difficult. I start out the year saying OK, this year you are coming home after school everyday and not trying to do so much, but already I find that it just isn't realistic to expect that. I don't know what the answer should be but I know when I start feeling like things are getting too crazy we just have to stop and re-evaluate everything. Kids today are just too busy, we parents need to maintain control over their schedules. As far as just Hangin', I don't like that, I think that is just asking for trouble if they aren't doing something productive. Plus she is not allowed at people's homes when there is no adult there, or to have friends at our house if we aren't here.
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Registered: 09-04-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 10:10pm
I get that from my fourteen year old daugher all the time. I'm not quite sure what 'hanging out' means, but Savannah wants to do it all the time too. I would prefer her to be doing productive things, but you know kids. I usually let her 'hang out' with her friends but I make sure that she keeps up school work and such beforehand.

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