Hate myself and really dislike my kid

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Registered: 04-14-2011
Hate myself and really dislike my kid
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Thu, 04-14-2011 - 9:40am

Hey guys.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-1999
Fri, 04-15-2011 - 7:49am

Decisions made (or not made) out of fear or guilt are generally not the best decisions made.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 3:11pm

I know how it is to hate punishing your kids--sometimes you're punishing yourself too, like when you ground them & then you're stuck at home w/ the unhappy kid.

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Registered: 04-14-2011
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 12:16pm
The therapist has told me to not change my discipline for my DD. I used to be scared that if I punished her she would self harm again but, therapist said that I cannot change my parenting to suit DD or she would use it against me. I definitely need to quit yelling. Need to work on that. I think I am a pushover. I do tell her ahead of time about punishment. She knew I would take car/ phone away if she went places without notifying us. Unfortunately, I feel extremely guilty when I do and I let her make me feel bad. So tough..
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 11:17am

I don't think the yelling works but it doesn't mean you should just let her do whatever she wants either.