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|Sat, 05-17-2003 - 3:17pm|
a while ago, he stopped going to school. just won't go. he gets panic attacks and can't go. he wants to go (so he says) and wants to do well (he was really excelling this year). anyway, he called a teen clinic, and after several weeks of discussions, he is going to the therapist on his own, and hubby and I are going as well for OUR issues.
he was diagnosed with *school phobia* (another millennium term I guess) was also put on some meds, some type of anti depressant. I was not too happy about that, but it does work. he is not zombied out at all, he is much happier, and FOCUSED. no more crying for hours, slamming doors, no more talking about death.
It is just scary to me, because I don't know WHAT will be with him, I know I must be patient and take one day at a time. I know that I must stop thinking about college and marriage and jobs, but be thankful that he is alive and doing better. its hard!!!
anyway, has anyone dealt with this, and gotten thru it? I believe that any phobias he has are just a result of all the tensions built up inside - the divorce, his bio-dad not every seeing him, the unhappy marriage, the cancer. it took him a long time to say how much he can't stand his step father. I think - from what he said and didn't say - that he would prefer to have a bad step dad than no step dad. sounds weird, but he wants a two-parent home..... I think that having all these traumatic things happen in his lifetime is difficult. and yes, I know, things could be worse, and kids have had to deal with worse things, but this is my kid and this is his life.
actually, I don't know why I stopped coming to this board - I got great advice and support here in the past....