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He did it Again!
| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 1:20am |
Some of you have heard the continuing saga of my ds17 and his grades.
| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 1:20am |
Some of you have heard the continuing saga of my ds17 and his grades.
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Good luck!
Sharon
I had the same thoughts Sharon, but I'm less of an expert than you - I have an LD/ADHD DS who barely graduated high school by the skin of his teeth. He really didn't care at all about high school, and it showed - he didn't do any extracurriculars, didn't do much of the "curriculars" either. His graduation day was the best day of my life, just coz it meant the battles were over.
No advice for our OP... just lots of sympathy.
Rose
Not sure of your work situation but is there any way you could homeschool him? It sounds like the school isn't the best setting for him. Reality is that high schools do very little checking because they feel that the time for hand holding is overwith. If your ds needs more verbal direction and guidance, oral tests, more in depth discussions of the material etc.. then perhaps homeschooling him would be helpful.
One suggestion I do have is to make sure that either you or your dh is with him when he's doing his work. Sit at the kitchen table together. You can work online, read a book etc.. just be there to keep him on track and moving in the right direction.
JMO
stacy
Are these classes all requirements for graduation(as opposed to requirements for college admittance)
If you have not already, I would take it down to the bare minimums. Most high schoolers have far more hours than they need. DS1's GF graduated a year early by simply taking a year of English one summer-since everything else was '3 years of....' that did it for her. She also did not like high school although I know she has had some regrets about the social stuff after the fact
Online classes are hard for most people; when DS1 went back to college he claimed he loved them but it was short lived. He prefers the regular type now. DS2's worst grade his freshman year of class was in an online computer class basically designed to put all the students on an even playing field if they hadnt had exposure. It SHOULD have been an easy A-obviously, he didnt make the deadlines
I would try not to kill him(although tempting)and realize this isnt a good idea for him. Certainly get your moneys worth now if you can but see it as a learning experience and dont go there again
Is there an alternative school option? I know one mom said that was a blessing for her son-I know I had a 'perception' of what those kids would be like and this young man wasnt even close. He was bright but just didnt like the 30 math problems every night approach. And the alternative school did none of that busy work; he thrived and graduated.
Take your expectations down-again, I know-forget community college and focus on teh piece of paper from high school
Ive seen enormous changes in DS1 who is 22 now. Why some boys are like this? I dunno but I swear it runs in my extended family. He may pursue college at 20, 22 or 25. Right now, he should be doing the absolute minimum and, if that means half day next year, so be it
Well I'd say that qualifies you as somewhat of an expert, indeed.
Thank you all for your replies and sympathy.
LOL, I can tell you are new here.
I'm new on this board, but would like to offer my support. I have a DS who is 21 and during high school and community college, he seemed to not "get it". Finally, after 5 years in CC, he's closing in on his transfer certificate. We joke that he's in the six year, two year transfer program. It takes some kids longer than others to mature and want to apply themselves. He's watched a good deal of his friends graduate from 4 year universities and they now have promising jobs, first apartments, etc. With any luck, my DS will finally enter his last two years of college at a university in the fall of 2008.
I know my situation is not the same as yours and doesn't lessen your frustration any. I'm sending positive thoughts your way. Please keep us updated.
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