He did it Again!

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He did it Again!
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Mon, 04-30-2007 - 1:20am

Some of you have heard the continuing saga of my ds17 and his grades.

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Wed, 05-02-2007 - 7:07pm

Triple hugs to you. The only advice I'd give is that "maybe" he really can't control his ability to stay interested and on-task. Not that I'd give up on him, but is there any other "type" of education he can get at this point to learn a life skill so he can succeed? I know he "wants" to graduate and follow a certain path, but perhaps it's not meant to be for him.

{{{{{hugs}}}}

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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 11:20am
I'm right there with you!
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 12:41pm

Lol, Sue,

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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 1:10pm

<<< None of them made any kind of difference, and we tried different dosages, too. >>>

<<< there is a difference of opinion now as to whether he actually does have ADD or not, especially since no med seemed to work. >>>

Bingo! Thank you. We went through almost the exact same thing even though DS-18 didn't have other diagnosis. I never believed he was ADD and only put him on the meds because the school kicked him out in 4th grade. Called me up there and told me to take him and don't come back until he was on meds.

I did it. At the time I didn't have many choices, and the ones I *did* have, I had no clue about. And plus, I thought since so many people said so, including his doctor, that they might be right.

Turns out they were wrong. No meds (in any doses - we tried it all) made a difference.

I also bent over backwards trying to keep DS from failing out of school. I believe that when a high school kid fails a grade, they are more likely to just drop out in the end. High school's hard enough without being a grade behind. So I don't blame you for not letting him fall on his face and flunk.

Hang in there... you're doing a great job. (even if you don't feel it at times)

zz

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 10:08am

I had a therapist tell me that too.

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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 12:21pm

$26.00?! Okay, ladies and gentlemen, may we assert that that is very, very screwed up?

Is there no such thing as a tax-free threshold? Is ALL income taxable regardless in the US? None of the income I make at the moment is taxable because I earn less than six thousand dollars a year.

I feel sorry for your son, and millions like him, if their income is taxed at that level. That's bloody filthy.

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Sun, 05-13-2007 - 12:40pm
In the US no matter what your income you must pay for Social Security, and Medicare tax.
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 1:28am

The compulsory union membership would not fly here in Australia, let me tell you. Here, it's illegal to compel anyone to join a union in order to retain their job. Are you actually saying he has been *forced* to join that union in order to keep his job? Is this legal where you are?

Taxpayers pay for our social security system, which is called "Centrelink", and the monetary benefits that can be collected are called "the dole". I think you call it "welfare". So I do understand the social security thing. Medicare is a public initiative, but health cover can range from no cover, to ambulance cover, to private cover.

I just know that until I earn more than $6000 a year, I don't pay tax, and if my employer does take out tax, it is refunded to me. However, that's not so very much in the "real world", since you cannot survive on $6 000 a year living independently. You just can't.

I also won't begin paying off my HECS debt (equivalent to your university student loans and scholarships) until I earn over $36 000 in salary.

Whose cruel idea was it to create the myriad obligations to fulfil with *your money*, and are they still in government?
If so, why is this?
Do people exist who actually like this system?
Who and where are they?

As for the other taxes you mentioned - unheard of, unless they go by different names here. But they aren't taken out of our pay automatically.

I know that what I'm telling you is of no help whatsoever, but I'm trying to understand. It's clear that Australia lives up to its cliched name of "The Lucky Country" and I am truly sorry to hear about the poor work conditions Americans are subjected to.




Edited 5/14/2007 1:38 am ET by abbag1rl
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 8:53am

We're in the Grand Rapids area -- Aquinas has a very good reputation.....so does Calvin College and


Grand Valley SU.

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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 9:29am
Union membership is mandatory if a business has a union in it.