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heartsandroses
| Sun, 08-19-2007 - 2:43pm |
How is your DD doing? You posted a while back that she was going through a rough time with friends, job and life in general. I hope things are better for you both!

Thanks for asking, she's doing better. With the help of her counselor she seems to be a little bit more focused on her current situation, possibly thinking of her future. I think an emphasis is being placed on taking better care of herself in general. Although my dd doesn't drink constantly, she had drank four in July at a level that she herself found alarming and so together with her counselor she will attend an AA meeting so she can nip any problems in the bud. I'm all for that - my only hesitation is that she is NOT an alcoholic and that last thing this kid needs is another label, so I am a wee bit concerned about that...not to mention: who will she meet there? Most young people's meetings have a lot of double diagnosis members, meaning they also are into drugs (or recovering). But, I guess taking care of herself and seeking out help when she feels it's needed is a step in the right direction.
As far as the friends' issues, she's also improved a bit in that area as well. She's made contact with some older friends with whom she hasn't had much contact with and renewed the connection. She met up with two girls from her old HS and went to a coffee cafe concert last week and have a nice time. She also has reconnected with her first love, though not romantically *yet*....long story short: She has feelings for him and felt the need to talk things out. When they broke up it was under very tumultous conditions and so they never had that long talk or closure. I guess dd felt the need so last night she met up with him and said her piece. He just listend and then she bolted out of his car because she was so afraid of his response. Anyway, the fact that she came home and told me everything makes me happy. I think the counseling may be helping her face certain issues with a little more maturity and be less sneaky and mistrustful about everything. Of course, we shall see. Anyway, she doesn't know if the old bf will respond at all, but she's not waiting around. She's trying to keep busy and make plans to hang with other friends and then we're going away for a week before college begins.
Oh yeah - she signed up for two classes at your local community college and begins Sept 4th! Very exciting. And, she may have gotten a new job at a local card shop. So, good things. I am hopeful and keep saying my prayers. There is a part of me that is always feeling a bit like a hawk, waiting for the signs that the other shoe is about to drop, but you can't help that when you have a kid like dd I guess.
Thanks again for asking. How's everything going in your life and yours?
Well gosh, H&R, that sounds like all good stuff! It seems that your DD has 'pulled herself up by the bootstraps' and is taking steps to move forward and take better control of her life and future. Maybe the AA and meeting with the old bf is her way of 'closing the door' on her past -- doors she might not want to reopen in the future? But, I know what you mean about the 'waiting for the shoe to drop' feeling! I'll continue to keep good thoughts for you both.
We are fine here; thanks for asking. We did finally move to Northern Colorado -- been here about 6 weeks now. Things are going well; we are settling in and adjusting. W's first day of 8th grade in his new school was yesterday. In spite of getting lost several times, being late for a few classes and not having the right supplies for some, it went well. He was in quite good spirits at the end of the school day.
C starts school today in a public school with a highly diversified and very colorful student body. It remains to be seen yet how her day will go, but I have every confidence she will be fine. She has really come into her own the last year or so -- confident and self-assured in most every way. Of course, she is enormously proud, so if that weren't the case, I'd be among the last to know.
I am experimenting with high altitude baking and planning a new garden and yard. I now have a very large front yard which, with the exception of some rather oddly placed young trees, is 99.5% weeds. I will have all winter to work on the yard plans.
DH is now working from home which allows us a great deal of (ahem) 'togetherness'. Once C gets her license, I think I may find myself a little part-time job!
I am so happy to hear things are turning around. Have a lovely holiday and good luck to your DD when school starts!
Julie
Julie, I'm sorry I missed your move post! Congrats on the new digs and hooray that everyone is settling in nicely and happy. Enjoy that alone time with H...but be sure to make time just for you still. It's important to have that each day! I hope your dd's first days in her new school go well.
I am envious that you have an entirely blank canvas of yard to create! I just reworked some garden space in my front yard. I had taken some cuttings from my sister and put them into my perennial garden and the darn things took over and smothered some other smaller plants I had in there. So, this weekend I pulled and yanked out some of the offending plants and replanted and transplanted a bunch more perennials - I will not see much improvement until next year, but that's okay...such is the gardeners life, right? With all the home construction going on, many of my plants and shrubs have gotten squashed, but I managed to save a few and move them also. I had my 17dd out there picking up nails (SO MANY!) that I found in the front garden next to the foundation of the house. I was a little peeved at H for just letting them fall, but I guess it's difficult to get everyone. I have to wear shoes now - I WAS strictly a barefoot kind of gardener.
I am just praying and hanging on to hope in regards to my dd. She is just so impulsive in her decision making and manages to make poor choices even when she knows fully well they are bad for her. Right now, she's feeling a bit bored during this in between period while waiting for her college classes to begin, so I am very wary of what she's doing with her time alone. She's been sleeping a lot and I keep trying to get her busy. Another friend made plans with her last evening and then never showed or called. And I also think she was hoping that the exbf would come back into her life, but to be honest, I doubt he'd want to subject his heart to dd at this point (she really stomped it hard when they broke up) and put himself through that misery again. Plus, dd knows he's interested in someone else, so it's almost like she set herself up for disappointment, you know? With her disorders it will always be difficult for her to trust her gut and feel comfortable in social settings, understand social cues, and control her reactions 100%, but I am hoping that as she matures, things will get better for her. I have a call into her counselor to see if I can sit in on her meeting this Friday. I don't want to steal dd's appt, but I would like to ask a few questions regarding the AA thing.
Well, have an excellent day!