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Registered: 12-28-2005
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 9:51pm

Tonight my 17 year old daughter asked me if I liked her 19 year old boyfriend. I asked her if she really wanted the truth. I told her I liked him but had some concerns about him.

Let me explain about this boy. He has no motivation. He is late for everything. He uses his adhd as an excuse not to do things. He is lazy. He wont get up even to help my daughter carry heavy boxes. He sits and watches. My daughter is an excellent basketball player who has spent countless hours in the gym over the past four years working on her game. He went to the gym with her twice and now is going around telling everyone that she is good because of ALL the times he has worked with her in the gym. He is rude to people. One time a boy was injured in a basketball game and he sat there with his feet up on the seats in front of him and made the ball climb over them, then he bragged about it. He talks rude to his mother and I am afraid later that is how he is going to treat my daughter.

Should I have not told her how I felt even though she asked me. She is really giving the cold shoulder now. I dont know what to do.

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Registered: 12-28-2005
In reply to: ks13mom
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 8:58am

Thanks for all the advice and support. Another incident happened last night. If it was a single incident no big deal but along with everythings else it just upsets me. He invited her to his house for supper. His mom is out of town but dad was there. When it came time he informed her he bought hot dogs. He knows my daughter HATES hot dogs with a passion.(he loves them) I thought this was very rude. My daughter ended up begging him to stop at subway on the way to his house so she could buy her own supper. The thing is my daughter makes excuses for this boy all the time no matter how he treats her.

Another time there was am article in the local paper about my daughter.(she excells in basketball). When he came to the house I asked him if he seen it. He said no. I gave him the paper to read the article. Instead of reading the article he opened it up to another sports page, read something, then laid the paper down. I asked him why he didn't read it. He said he didnt need to. HOW RUDE!!!!!!

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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: ks13mom
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:13am

Wow -- this kid has serious potential to rob daddio's Weenie Boy of his title!

What exactly does she see in him? Do you think the reason she asked you if you liked him was because she was looking for some sort of encouragement/reason/justification for breaking up with him?

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