Help with 18 year old son and motivation.

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Registered: 10-24-2011
Help with 18 year old son and motivation.
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 2:56pm

My son is 18 years old he is a senior in High school and lacks motivation.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 11-13-2011 - 11:30am

About the job.

dragowoman

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Sun, 11-13-2011 - 7:38am
You sound a lot like me a year ago..My son was a lot like that. He was 17 as a senior though...once he graduated he really changed his attitude..I think that was a wake up call for him..over the summer he enrolled himself in our local community college and is doing good...he isnt working but he has financial aid and is enrolled in school full time. I really think that kids ..boys spefically mature at different stages..just because they turn 18 doens't mean it clicks with them to be adult like..also I really think at that age ..whether they want to admit it or not...they are afraid to go out in the real world and grow up....i don't have any magic words of advice...just wanted to share my story -)

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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 9:51pm

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Sun, 11-06-2011 - 7:58am
I agree - if this is his passion, who's to say he won't flourish doing it? Maybe gently suggest he eventually take a business class at the CC later if it might help his savvy in doing this job, and see how it goes over time.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 8:59pm
But all those people you mentioned were motivated! College is not for everyone, that is for sure!! Many of the world's most successful people think outside of the box, that is why they make it. If he wants to do an e-business, be sure he has a business plan, and treats it like his job.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 10:38am
Madoff's suicide goes much deeper than because he was losing his wealth. Try to have a little heart and understanding.

 

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Fri, 11-04-2011 - 11:43pm
A few days ago, The "Nightly News" pointed out that a lot of the merchandise sold on Craigslist, was stolen. I'd be kind of curious about who these "friends" are, that sell him this stuff low enough that he can turn around and resell it for a profit.
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Registered: 08-08-2009
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 9:36pm

Motivation is a tough one. Don’t get discouraged.

I have this vision of George and Barbara Bush laying in their king size bed at the naval observatory vice presidential residence and saying something like.

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Thu, 10-27-2011 - 5:02pm
I don't disagree and certainly, my DH has had to deal with a lot of the "entitlement generation" as he calls them (largely 20-somethings.) However, my kids also run in very high achieving circles so the majority of our dealings with the younger generation are quite positive... kids you'd be really proud of.

There were always those unmotivated kids. Let's not pretend we didn't have them lol. The difference is, when forced to or when they snapped out of it, they could still manage to get a job with few skills and a high school diploma. The group I feel is really hurting today is the high-achievers who would have done well in any other generation but are struggling to get into schools, struggling to PAY for school, struggling to find jobs, stressed to the nines trying to be the most perfect candidate for a job that 20 years ago, a company would have been happy with any warm body to fill it. I think we are passing the point of "if you just work hard." We see lots of kids who work hard and they aren't doing much better than the kids who sleep on their parents couch until 2pm.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 10-27-2011 - 4:15pm
I know we live in the Chicago burbs and most the chain stores here won't hire kids until they are 18. But, most kids are 18 by college, but they won't work. My 13 yo ds mows lawns, he earns about $100 a month, not too shabby. He still has time to play sports, be in band, scouts, religious ed and more and stay on the high honor roll. My 17 dd works two jobs, one is for her riding lessons, not cash, but something of great value to her. I tell my kids to stay home after college, dh and I did, we paid for our own wedding and had a downpayment on a house. Rent is just paying someone else's mortgage. But, in general, this generation seems to think the world owes them a living. I will say I feel for these kids, unemployment and underemployment has 30-40 year old men working jobs that were usually meant for them. My own hubby has not worked regularly in the past 2 1/2 years and has taken "kid jobs" in the past, just to work. But, going to college does not entitle you to a high salary job. There was an article about a year ago I read that stated for the first time college grads were appling for their first jobs!! How do you stay on the planet for 21 years and not bring in a paycheck??? Internships and volunteer work are working, at least you can put that on a resume. But, I can look at many kids in my own area, kids of my peers, etc... who do nothing. What are they going to put on a resume? My mommy makes me keep my room clean and empty the dishwasher?

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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