Help!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Help!!!!
2
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 6:10pm
Hello everyone I am pretty much a lurker here for I have 3 teenage girls. All 3 girls lived with me after my divorce. Well 3 years ago my youngest went to live with her dad, and then this summer my middle daughter who is 16 going on 30 moved to live with her dad. They live 4.5 hours from me and I have seen my 16 year 1 weekend since she moved and now the only time she calls me is to ask for money or ask when am I going to be paying child support. I have just remarried after being with my SO for 4 years long distance and 1 year by with SO and my 16 year old. Well all of a sudden my 16 year hated the HS she was going to and she wanted to go to school 25 minutes from home and she wanted a car even tho she had ni money saved up for a down payment. But I told her know that was not going to work. She had know valid reaso n for not going back the former high school other she wanted to go to school with her friends from where she worked. Well this is my stubborn child she wants what she wants or else. So I told her that was not going to happened that she needed to get ready to go back to her school from last year. Instead she moves to her dad's house get a car and she gets to choose the school she wants to go to. Well I have been taking anti depressants for a different reason for a while well I am out and now I am feeling like I am a horrible mother because I would not give in to her demands. My daughter had rules here but I am not sure if she has rules at her dad's and I just feel like I failed all my dear daughters. Did I do the right thing by saying no that is not how it works in my house?

lisa j romesburg

Avatar for bookwormmom
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-22-2003
In reply to: lisahein
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 6:34pm
I think you were right. There doesn't sound like there was a real reason for her to go to a different school etc. Sounds like she was maybe trying to play one parent against the other.
I think giving in to what ever she wants would only have made things worse.
JMHO
Kristie
Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2005
In reply to: lisahein
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 9:18am

I think you did the right thing.

stacy