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| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 7:35am |
I appreciate all the advice from everyone but here we go again.
My daughter had to sell sub sandwhiches to help pay for her sneior trip. Her boyfriend sold a few for her to family and friends. When it was time to turn in the numbers he told her to order 5 extra cuz he knew he could sell them. She asked if he was sure. He said yes. When they came in he told her he was just kidding he didn't really want them. I told her he was responsible for them. I counted them out THREE times and took them to his work place. Now he claims I gave him 4 less than I did. I am so mad.
But when I tried to talk to my daughter about this kid and tell her to please keep her eyes open considering him she is really giving me the cold shoulder, After everything he has done she still thinks he is so wonderful.
Me I AM FED UP.

You've made your feelings known about the b/f and it's obvious that she heard you, she just doesn't agree with you. I would probably not continue with this. She may feel like you are being critical of her - she choose to date him. You also want her to know that she can come to you if/when there are problems with b/f. If she feels like you are constantly criticizing (& in her world more than once in a lifetime is constantly) him, she won't come to you. I tend to be more indirect with my criticism. For instance, DD's b/f is a major moocher. So when I see someone like that on TV or in real life, I simply say boy that girl is way too good to put up with something like that or I wonder what happened in her life that her self-esteem is so low that she thinks that's the best guy for her. He is also a drinker so when I know that of an incident involving alcohol - driving accident, fight, lost job, etc - I simply say what a shame that so & so lost his job b/c he went to work with a hangover or isn't it interesting that such a nice guy can be such a jerk with a little alcohol. She usually doesn't respond but I know she's getting the message.
In your particular case, I would also insist that DD be responsible for paying for those sandwiches. She took the order and she is responsible for paying for it. If she has to start actually paying for his screw-ups, she might get tired of it on her own.