help with almost 15 & almost 13 year old
Find a Conversation
|Wed, 06-04-2003 - 7:07am|
We recently moved states. We bought a new house. Our boys have always shared rooms. We finished our downstairs and put in an extra large bedroom/walk in closet and bathroom. Now my oldest son, 15 in June, doesn't want to share rooms with our 12, 13 in August, son.
Our middle guy has always had some emotional issues. Our oldest is sensitive and sweet. Our middle guy is sensitive, but really more so to himself. He has always had sleep issues and I think in general is not as easy going as my oldest son. He holds a grudge forever and has a sharp tongue that he lashes out with when he perceives that someone has done something wrong against him.
They have been sharing the room. But they have been having quarrels about things, like normal brothers do. However, my oldest has said things like "when I'm 16 your so out of this room..." which makes my middle guy worry about it and hurts him. Then my middle guy replys "I hate your guts and your fat." Which hurts my oldest guys feelings.
I couldn't take all the fighting and meaness. My husband has openly said to the boys he thinks my oldest son should have first rights to the room. My middle son says this is unfair. I told my middle guy that he is moving to our guest room and we will fix it up like he wants. He has been behaving strangely since I said it four days ago. Like we have all ganged up on him, like he has lost his best friend, like he is depressed. He is sleeping in the guestroom. He says he is moving his stuff there and there's nothing we can do to change his mind. However I know this is just to "show us" not because he wants to do it. It is really sad.
My oldest son asked him to stay sharing the room, on his own. My middle guy said "No. You have ruined everything for me."
What do I do? My youngest child is our daughter. She is not involved.
Edited 6/4/2003 7:14:59 AM ET by akrobins