Help!! Could my 12 almost 13 yo daughter be Pregnant?

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Registered: 04-13-2012
Help!! Could my 12 almost 13 yo daughter be Pregnant?
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Fri, 04-13-2012 - 5:05pm

My 12 yo daughter came to me and told me she had a boyfriend and said she thought she should get on the pill.

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Registered: 06-16-1998

I think that dad needs to know what's going on. Its good that you got her on the pill, if she's going to be sexually active then of course you don't want her getting pregnant especially at 12...

Who supervises her when dad is out of town or at work? Is there a stepmom involved? It sounds like she needs more supervison, and more "wholesome" activities to fill her time so her afterschool hours are occupied with things other than bf and sex. When my dd was in Jr Hi some of her friends who had a few hours every afternoon in empty houses were having sex, drinking, doing drugs, etc. Here some of the Jr Hi's have afterschool programs with sports, homework help, etc--is there anything like that where your dd lives?

Can you ask her flat out if she thinks she is pregnant, and then test her if necessary? To even think she's pregnant would be a huge burden for a kid of that age, she needs adult support right now. If you don't trust dad to be gentle with her then can you get to her or is there another woman who can help such as an aunt?

After this gets resolved I think you should take her back to the doctor or to Planned Parenthood to discuss BC options including shots. If she cannot remember to take her pills then she needs to be be on some other form regardless of what her friends tell her. Let a medical professional be the one to tell her the options and side effects, not her 14yo "expert" friends who may not know what they're talking about. Did the doctor also stress using condoms? BTW do you know anything about her bf, like if he's her same age or someone much older putting pressure on her etc?

Best of luck, hopefully its just a scare or her being conflicted about what she is doing.

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Registered: 01-24-2012

OMG, I cannot even imagine!! 12 years old!

Let us know how it goes with the Dad- sounds like it won't be easy.

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Registered: 05-27-1998

No, she is not "way too mature" for her age. Mature 12 years know they are not ready for sex. She is very immature and seeking affection in an inappropriate way.

If I were you, I would do my best to get custody, whether she is PG or not, and really give her the parenting she needs to be healthy and whole. Mothering isn't all about money. You can do this!

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Registered: 04-13-2012

Thanks guys and yes I took her to a doctor. She has started her periods, she knows all about sex, she is waaay too mature for her age.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Are you even sure she knows exactly how girls get pregnant?

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Registered: 12-03-1999