help daughter is a vegan

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help daughter is a vegan
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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 9:42am

my daughter has always been skinny but she could eat

shannon

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:08am

Hi!


I am vegetarian, but not vegan. I strongly believe that being either does not mean being

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:21am

I am not a vegetarian or vegan, but I'm sure that people could eat healthy either way, but it would take more effort.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:27am
Did she end up in the ER due to malnutrition or dehydration?
Pam
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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 11:43am

her boyfriend is very controlling, she has no self confidence and he has such high moral standerds on this he hates anyone that is not a vegan. he does not do drugs but he is just as bad with this vegan stuff. she does not eat right and half the stuff she does not like, she is very tiny by nature, her dr. has tryed talking to her but she is very stubborn. i try what i can but i is expensive, we eat alot of vegitarin stuff just because it is healtheir

shannon

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 2:17pm

My boss used to be a vegetarian, somewhat for health reasons but partly for moral reasons.

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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 4:57pm

shannon

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:58pm

It seems that the root of your daughter's problem is not what she is, or is not eating, but rather her controlling boyfriend. If she were my daughter I'd try to get her into some kind of therapy, but I know it's not easy to convince a teen to go for that.

My DS18, on the shy side, lacks self-confidence and when he got in trouble last year, other parents said "He was wrong, he deserves the 5-day suspension". But they don't know that kids are affected differently, and emotional disturbances can result when the wrong things are said/done to sensitive, introverted teens.

Some other girl would probably tell your DD's bf to go to hell if he were to ask her to become a vegan or that she needed to watch her weight. Because your DD has a more submissive personality, she goes along and tries to please him. Her bf is hurting her, but the sad thing is that many would not see that because many are self-confident extroverts who think your dd just chooses to be like him. They are unable to empathize with her. Their brains don't work that way.

I hope your dd soon finds a better bf.

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Sat, 11-03-2007 - 4:40am

everything you said was so true. kayla has always been stuborn and had an ego the size of a footballfield, but self confidence nothing. she is alot like my younger brother (WE ARE 10 YEARS APART) and so are they, my mother always said if they ever lived togeather they would debate so much about who is right there heads would exploid! but at least her ego would keep her going how little troll of a person deflated it i have no idea.


shannon

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Sun, 12-02-2007 - 9:35am

sorry it has been awhile.kayla did spend thanksgiving with us, my mom bought her a foturky she took like 3 bites and made a commit about her stomick. while my mother was makeing real turkey she was making all theses commits about how it was gross. my mom finally told her to stop, we do not down her she needs to be vegan. the thing is she does not even like it, when i have the money i try to take her shopping i ask her if she wants to go to the vegan store

shannon

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 12-02-2007 - 1:57pm

Sorry to hear she's still not eating well. Here's a link to an article that may interest you, even though it offers no practical suggestions:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7120564.stm

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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM

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