HELP He's Too Old For My Daughter

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HELP He's Too Old For My Daughter
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 2:34pm

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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 2:52pm

Well, I liked your dd's idea about bringing him to your house so you and your husband could meet him. And if the boy was willing to do that,

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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 5:22pm

You know what?

Pam
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 5:55pm
Well, I'm going to just pretty much echo the other sentiments here.
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 6:29pm

Also agreeing with previous posts. My boys are late bloomers-my oldest didnt date until he was out of high school. He met his first GF 2 months shy of his 20th birthday; she had just turned 17! Yet she was more experienced in all dating matters than he was. Thankfully, the GFs mom took it in stride; I think she realized what a good and stable young man my son is. They have been together 2 years now; GF's mom adores him!

Give him a chance. There is a big difference between a 17 yr old average guy, a 17 yy old late bloomer, and a 17 yr old player. You have to meet him to get a handle on where this fellow will fall

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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 7:42pm

I'm going to have to agree with the others here. My dd is 17 and met S this summer. We were visiting in another state and he is my friends grandson. When I talked to DH that evening I told him she was out on a date. Of course he was surprised, I explained who he was and his first question was "how old is he?" I told him 19 and he kind of freaked. To me it makes a lot of sense for a 17 yo girl to date a 19 yo guy, given the difference in rates of maturity, I thought he was the perfect age. Of course he was concerned with how much experience S had as compared to Kelsie. We recently started some family counseling and when he and I were there alone, the counselor asked exactly how old does she need to be before she can date a 19 yo boy? He was stumped. The thing is that at her age, most of the boys do have more experience than she does.


I'm sure this is one of your concerns, but not all guys are just out to have sex with a girl. Some of them, a good many, really do just want to have a nice time and get to know the girl. So I would let him come over and see what he is like. Like, I think it was Pam said, if you know other parents talk to them and see what they think of him or even other kids. Sometimes they are the ones who really know what another kid is like.


Good luck and let us know how things go.

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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 9:59pm



I have to echo what everyone else has said - get to know him before you rule him out as "too old."
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Wed, 10-10-2007 - 11:59am

Hi - last year my dd was 14 and was asked out by a 16 year old - soon to be 17 year old boy from her school.

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Wed, 10-10-2007 - 4:44pm

I personally think you should meet the boy and get to know him and then set some boundaries for your daughter.

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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 8:53am
Meet him....have some dates watching DVD's at home...if you like him from there, set rules.
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Registered: 10-14-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:40am

Hi,


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