HELP!!! How do I tell her?

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Registered: 09-17-2004
HELP!!! How do I tell her?
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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 4:44pm

Hi everyone! I haven't posted in here in a long time but I have some issues that I need some help resolving and I thought this would be the place to get great advice. WHEW!! Where do I start? I have a 19 yr old soon-to-be-step-daughter that is living with me and my other 3 kids. Her father, (my fiance), is in prison and will be home in February finally after 3 yrs. (The reason he is there is for another message board) I have always been more than fair with DD but in June she had her b/f stay over for a few nights....well that "few" nights has turned into days then months now. He doesn't have a job and he has only bought a few boxes of cereal since then for the house. DD is VERY intimidating to me for some reason so it's very difficult to talk to her without getting a defensive and sometimes harsh reply back. She was in a car accident in April and got a chunk of money from it which she has seemed to spend already. She hasn't got her license yet, failed the driving test 3 times, but she does have a job and is going to school 3 times a week. In the summer I had to borrow money from her to pay a few bills which totalled close to 1200.00. Not something that I am proud of but I didn't know where else to get the money. Needless to say that she was on the phone with her mom the other night and my daughter overheard her telling her mom that she is just waiting for me to pay her back the money I borrowed so she can buy a car. That had me steamed!! First off...the money I borrowed from her isn't nearly enough to buy a car with and secondly, I feel that she should be pitching in since she AND her b/f are staying here rent free! Am I wrong? Do I tell them that they need to pay a certain amount of rent each month and also help with the bills? I'm biting my tongue until I can figure this out but I'm about to explode. Please help me out here....any advice you may have is welcome.

Thanks for listening...

Jennifer

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 8:58am
Oh That! Actually Becca, I was just kind of being a wiseass when I wrote that! I was probably feeling a little punchy....lol. Yes, I think we see the same point of views! Have a great weekend.

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