HELP! Sons were threaten by parent

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Registered: 07-14-2004
HELP! Sons were threaten by parent
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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 2:29pm
Okay, I have 2 sons and we live in a small town. My sons and there friend met some girls. They are all around 13 and 14. They mentioned it here and there but were embarrassed to admit they were starting to be interested in girls. The girls were texting the boys. One girls texts their friend and was telling him I love you. He didn't know how to react. Well, yesterday my son calls me from the convenience store and in the background I hear a man yelling, "I'm gonna kick ya'lls little asses and you can call your mommy's and daddy's and tell them to come on over and I'll kick their asses too. Stay away from my daughter and if I you ever talk to her again I'm gonna come kick your ass." I immediately heard him and asked my son who that man was talking to. He said oh, someone at beside us. I told him he better tell me the truth, because no adult has the right to talk like that to a minor. He would never say, so I called the store and asked one of the workers. She said the man was talking to they boys and a vendor and customers got scared. I called back the boys, and then called the cops. So did the friends mother. The girl then continues texting and calling their friend 15 times. Then has a friend call him. We checked his texts and some texts she wrote are explicit! My boys did tell me her texts were making them uncomfortable. Now, of course the boy wants nothing to do with her. Also, even if he did, he is so afraid to talk to her. The friends mom is going to press charges and going to the D.A. because the cop just said well he is just overprotective and wants his daughter checked out by a doctor. IF the girl is not a virgin than he is going to press charges. I hate to say it but these boys are slow starters and are just getting interested in girls. I'm not just saying that because I am the mother either. They're never left alone long enough to have done anything serious with a girl. Is this just the start of the teenage years? Is this just an example of what will come in the future? I am mad at this parent, but am a christian so I'm just praying about the situation. I feel soooo stressed and it really bothers me that this man did this to these boys.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 5:02pm

It sounds like typical teen stuff and parents of all parties should be dealing with it in terms of dealing with their OWN children

It was silly for the man to yell at the boys but I think it was silly to involve the police as well-JMHO

I doubt a dr will tell dad the state of the girls virginity so hopefully, he will calm down and mind his own family business

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 5:27pm

This all sounds like pretty normal teen stuff... though the girl's dad needs to start looking more at what SHE is doing than what the boys might be doing.

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Registered: 07-14-2004
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 5:49pm
It was like a gut reaction to call the police. When your kids are 13 and an adult man is threatening to hurt them, pushing them, in public and in full view of people, you do tend to over react. Especially because I work in the next town and wasn't there at the time. I don't think I or the other mother overreacted. Anyway it didn't help because one of the cops grew up with the man and blew it off. Actually warned the other mother to watch out because this man said he was going to press charges. For what I ask, talking to his daughter? So that is why the other mother contacted the D.A., the store worker said she didn't see anything only heard it. Which I think is a lie because the store is very small. The store had a camera showing the adult pushing the boys and yelling and the D.A. is making them turn over the tape. The mother of the girl works in hour away and the dad is a truck driver. He is 6 foot and 300 pounds so I think his appearance alone was scary for the boys. The girls friend called because they felt bad and told us she also has 2 other boyfriends. It is hard because even though I am originally from this town. I have been gone a long time and they all pretty much back each other up. I guess I am stressed over it because last month they were like little boys still, and they started changing so fast into teens. This is the first time we've had teen drama, I know probably not the last.
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Registered: 08-08-2005
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 11:13am
i don't think you over reacted to call the police either. i recently had a problem w/the kid across the street, posting personal info of my dd on the net w/her cell #. also texting her threatening stuff....we called the police and they came and took a report. it took some time before someone would do something...actually took a call from my brother who is a local attorney and knows the captin. anyway, atleast the kid seen the cop car in our driveway and if he was contacted or not, i don't know but my dd hasn't heard anything more from him so i hope its over. we still want him prosecuted. so prayers your way, it's only the beginning....peace for now. OH, one more thing., my ds was recently threatened by his friend's father. said he was gonig to kick my son't ass. my son said something not very nice about his friend's gf on a text on the comp and the crazy gf showed her bf's father and he called my son cursing at him. my ds told my dh and he called this guy back and told him he did not appreciate the way he spoke w/our son and he appologized and said he was out of line and was very upset and that's why he said those things. actually blamed my ds for his ds smoking pot. no excuse but my dh spoke w/the guy and said that sometimes kids make the wrong choices and they venture out on things they should not but we can't be w/them 24/7 only try and guide them and hope for the best.
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Registered: 08-25-2000
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 11:49am
Actually it's a good idea to post a police report just in case something WOULD happen in the future, there is evidence of a threat.
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Registered: 08-08-2005
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 5:24pm
ABSOLUTELY, and that is one of the reasons we did report it as well..plus, if he comes on the property we can have him arrested for trespassing since he has been told not to be here.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 10:24pm
I think the man was upset about his dd behavior and lashed out at the nearest target, which were your boys. But, any touching is assult and threatening them is also criminal behavior, I would have called the police too.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!