help/motivation

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Registered: 11-26-2007
help/motivation
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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:37pm

I am looking for some advice here.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 8:52am

I would say I am the procrastinator queen but I know people who are worse

No way would I be starting on something due the end of Feb this early! REmember, art is her forte-it likely comes easily and quickly to her because its her strength. If you are not artistic(Im not), it probably carries some awe and you feel "if it was me I would need...."

My older two write easily. I was/am the same way. I wrote my college papers the night before or the morning of and still stayed on the Deans List(one prof asked me if I was an English major-maybe I should have been -LOL)

Two of my three are the same-they despised the years when the teacher made them do outlines, etc-each due on different days. And it sure didnt make them adopt that process the next time they wrote a paper!!!They zip them off in a heartbeat

I wouldnt worry until mid February-seriously! If you cant handle that, mid January

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Registered: 11-26-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:01am
Thank you.
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:27am

How can you say that no one will care what high school or college she went to in 10 or 15 years???

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Registered: 03-20-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:29am




hello my name is andy -- you are lucky she is 13.. you must take a stand aganist her now. or it will get so bad you will be in my position today. my son was the same at that age. i figured he would get better when he gets older.. instead he got 10x worse.. you need to stop any friend that is questionable.. like i should have. the problem with me is his mother and i are not together.. so she could not handel him at age 15 and he cane too live with me. i was a little slow in disaplining him at once because i taught he needed some space.. wrong you need to take control at once.. put demands on her.. like i should have.. it just got worse and worse.. he drooped out of school at 16. i told him no school then you have too work.. i gave him jobs in my business that i feel he could handel... he refused to work.. smoking weed like crazy.. i had to run my business so it was hard to track every move... now last night we had a fist fight and i almost snapped his neck.. he thought he was stronger than me. he will continue today.. i do not know what to do anymore.. stop it at 13 and do not wait.. set strong demands...


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Registered: 12-14-2006
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:43am

Last year, another board member

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 10:30am
I have a 12 yr old DS who is an A student.
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Registered: 11-13-2004
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 10:46am

I’m trying to get my head around your idea that if she doesn’t go to this school, you have not done a good job as a parent. I’m sorry if you feel criticized.


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Registered: 02-14-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:33am

I've thought about the procrastination issue some more, and I have another suggestion. How about if you and she set up some interim deadlines--instead of having the one, big looming deadline in February? If you set up a schedule of sorts, where she will have such-and-such done by Dec. 15th (or whatever) and something else by Jan. 1st, etc....it won't seem so daunting, and if she can procrastinate all she wants w/ those little deadlines. But by the time February rolls around, she'll be in good shape. Just another take on how to break it down into smaller pieces.


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Registered: 08-17-2005
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:40am

I think it's great that you found a charter school like that, but...let me share with you "our story".

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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:47am

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