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|Mon, 09-09-2013 - 3:07pm|
Sorry I've been away so long. This summer has pretty much been the summer from he** but things are looking up now. When I last posted Jason (26) was finishing up his 2nd year of med school and Justin (23) was living at home looking for a job and thinking about joining the army. Here's what's been going on since then:
Justin had finally found a job with a local asphalt company and started at the end of May - completely blue collar but it pays $15/hour and has full benefits. He moved out in July so we are once again empty nesters. DH and I took a short trip to San Antonio the end of May to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. So that was where the good news ended.
We got home from our trip on May 30. That night Jason sat us down and told us that he'd been called into the dean's office the prior week (hadn't wanted to tell us then and ruin our trip). He and was told that someone had sent an anonymous email that said they found Jason's tweets/FB status updates offensive. And many of them were over the top. He loves that 'anything goes' crude humor that pokes fun of anyone and everyone. We'd talked to him about it but what do we know? We figured at some point someone would talk to him. What we didn't figure was that the head dean evidently wanted to make an example of him; he was given the choice of withdrawing as a student in good standing (his grades were GREAT) or they would dismiss him and would be forced to tell future schools/employers the reason. They didn't even let him take his boards 2 weeks later that he'd been studying so hard for. And within a month the school had a new social media policy in place. They may not have been able to do that at a public school but he went to a Jesuit medical school and I'm guessing they can do things a bit differently. So there he was in Chicago with no job, no longer in school, and over $100,00 in debt. We were shocked, angry at both Jason and the school and finally just sad. Many of you remember that he struggled with an eating disorder several years ago. Every time we saw him in the next few months he was thinner and thinner. He really wanted to stay up there near his friends so we agreed to help him financially for a few months. He filled out tons of apps but didn't even get call backs. We were all getting discouraged. Finally he broadened his search and applied at Epic Systems in Madison, WI. Got an all expense paid trip up there for an interview in early August and got the offer the next week. He moved up there Sept. 1 and started on Sept. 3. He LOVES it. The campus is really neat - it was designed by the people that designed Universal, Google, etc. So things are great with Jason now.
On June 18 my dh had his first routine colonoscopy (he's 54) and 4 polyps were removed, one looking 'suspicious'. Within 48 hours the doctor was calling saying it was cancerous and he thought it may have spread to the blood stream. We were imagining the worst. He had some follow up testing the following week that showed pre-surgically the surrounding lymph nodes and organs did NOT appear to be affected so we were somewhat relieved but still nervous as it had spread into the colon wall. He had surgery on July 19 to remove a portion of his colon. Unfortunately they had to do a temporary ileostomy, which was very physically and emotionally tough on him. The following week we met with the surgeon and oncologist to go over the lab results. Thankfully the surgeon got all the cancer and the lymph nodes that he removed as well as the bit he removed on each side of the cancer were clean. This past Friday he had surgery to reverse the ileostomy and is doing great. Moving slowly but psychologically SO much better. He'll have to have a sigmoidoscopy in about 3 months and another colonoscopy in 6 months. If those are both clean he'll have to have colonoscopies every year for a few years. He'll continue to see the oncologosist every 6 months until he has 2 clean colonoscopies, in which case it will go to every year for the next 5 years. So for those of you that are over 50 and haven't had a colonoscopy - schedule one NOW. Had dh waited even a few more months I'm sure the results would have been much different.
Sorry this is so long but I wanted to let you all know what was going on around here. I hope you all had a better summer than we did!