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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 12:28pm
My name is Cheryl I have 5 children 4 boys and a girl. My oldest Ty will be 13 June 11th. His is in 7th grade and about to be kicked out and sent to alternitave school. He is being rude to his teachers. His english teacher called me yesterday she said she has given his alot of chance because he is a bright boy but he calls her Mr Gly, Marry Pat in class. He disrupes his classes. If he gets in trouble one more time they will boot him out. I have talked to him and punished him but seems to work. Does anyone have any advi
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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 2:40pm

Welcome to the board. I'm sure someone will repond soon with some advise. I'm sorry that I don't have anything to offer right now. I only have one question. Could he be bored? Is he too bright for his classes? This may sound like a simple solution, but it may be a contributing factor to his poor behavior.

Mily

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Sun, 06-04-2006 - 7:42am

Welcome to the board.

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Registered: 02-18-2005
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 6:08pm

Hi

First off, ((HUGS))! Raising teens is not for the faint-hearted!

It sounds like your son is having a hard time. Have you, or anyone at school, asked him why he's acting the way he is at school? Sometimes we forget to ask kids what's up.

That said an "alternative" school may not be all bad. If it's a school that has a clearer discipline policy, can help him learn appropriate behavior, and help him succeed in school than that would be great. Find out more about what the program is, what he'll get there, and how he gets back to the regular school program.

Have you tried counseling with him? There may be some help in having him talk to a trained neutral third party.

I'm not a big fan of punishment. Have you tried rewarding him for good behavior? Set a goal with him for a particular time period (a day, a week...) and then set a reward. Like "talk politely to teacher for three days, then $ toward a new DVD or CD or game". This is just an example, but maybe there's a way to break the downward trend and help him get back on track.

HTH

Hope you stay with us in this group. It's a very helpful and friendly group!

Sue

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Registered: 02-15-2006
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 9:08am
I don't necessarily have the answer to your problem, but maybe one approach could be to help him see his potential, and that he is "better than that". It sounds like he is just wanting attention, and acting out is an easy way to get it. Sorry I can't help more tan that...just my 2 cents.
Good luck.
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Registered: 06-03-2006
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 9:18am
Thanks everyone, I am going to sit down with him and Mrs Gyln this week. He is only like this in english, art and music the other teacxhers have no issues. I'm thinking it may be a girl in the class. I know she turned him down I have no idea what for but I think he wanted her to be his girlsfriend.