High School Boys!!
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|Thu, 11-08-2012 - 4:57pm|
Ok, so this is probably going to be more of a rant so to all my fellow parents of teens...thanks in advance!
My dd is 17 and a senior in high school. For the most part she is friendly, popular and has a pretty large friend base. She ran for Homecoming Queen this year and came in 2nd. We were extremely proud of her for putting herself out there and at least trying. She is typical in that she can be moody and doesn't always take advice when its much needed. Here's my beef. On two separate occasions, she was "asked out" by boys in her class. One took her to the homecoming dance. On both occasions, both boys were soon after in touch with their "exes" and were in a quandry as to if they wanted to stay with my dd or go back to the ex. One boy chose dd and one boy chose the ex. DD was upset and felt used in both cases. I'm trying to not involve myself too much as she needs to learn how to deal with these sorts of things; however, its hard watching her be heartbroken and also see it play on her self esteem. My advice to her was to hold out for a boy who wants her and ONLY her. If he even is considering going back with his ex, then he doesn't truly want to be with her. Understand, that I am in no way holding her totally unaccountable. Just like most girls her age, she likes the attention and I'm sure doesn't turn her back on these guys when she should!
My question is, what's up with these boys? Is it their age and lack of maturity at this stage of the game? What can I tell my dd without seeming like a pushy mom so she can realize she's worth so much more?