homecoming tonight

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Registered: 11-28-1999
homecoming tonight
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Thu, 11-09-2006 - 2:42pm

Tonight is my DD's last homecoming dance (they have the day off tomorrow for Veterans Day). When I was in h.s., we always had the homecoming dance the night of a football game, which were always on a Saturday. In her h.s, football games are on a Friday night, so I guess that won't work. The funny part is that there is also a playoff soccer game for the boys' team tonight that starts at 6:00. Last year, the team won at least the division championship. A few of her good friends are on the soccer team, so the plan is to go to the game all dressed up, then go to the dance that is in the gym. The other team's fans might wonder why they have dresses on to watch a game, don't you think? We are really lucky that today is about 65 degrees.

Also, I know the dance ends at 11:00. Since she is under 18, she isn't supposed to drive past 12:00. I have this feeling she won't be home by midnight. I actually wouldn't care if she stayed out later, I just don't want her to get a ticket and I can think of only one friend who has turned 18, but that girl has a BF so they are probably going together. I have told DD to call me before she goes out & tell me her plans, if any, for after the dance. I was mad at her last weekend for not being home on time but she got home at 12:10. Her rationale is that she was watching a movie at a friend's house that was almost over and the friend lives about a mile away. Now, the law is that the police aren't supposed to pull someone over between 12:00 and 1:00 a.m. just to see how old they are--they would have to be stopped for something else, like speeding, and then they could get an extra ticket for driving too late. After 1:00 they could be stopped just because they look young. I don't even like to bring this up if she doesn't know it, cause she will use it as an excuse. Do you think I should let her take the chance to be out late because it is the dance? When she went to the junior prom, I did let her stay out late, but she wasn't driving. The boy who took her wasn't supposed to be driving either, but he wasn't my son. Then I felt guilty for putting him in that position/

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 3:17pm

You know, it's really tough isn't it? My ds had an 11:30 curfew and now that he has his license it is going to have to be 11pm, as the law states that anyone under 18 and less than year w/o license can't drive between the hours of 11pm and 5 am. Of course, it seems as though "everyone" breaks that law. What is a parent to do for special occasions such as this?

I don't know what to tell you other than offer some kind of compromise - I do agree as others have said that "nothing good happens after midnight" but maybe you can give her an extra half hour. Sure she won't be happy with that one, I hope someone else has better advise for you.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 11-09-2006 - 4:42pm

Has she been in any trouble recently? If not, I would let her go but make sure that she isn't out past 1:00. Also make sure that she understands if she gets a ticket, it's her responsibility to pay it. I wouldn't mention the stuff about them not pulling them over w/o another reason.

In our state, they are allowed to be out late for school functions, weekend work, etc.

Hope she has fun!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:10am

The funny part is that she was home at about 12:10. When I got up to talk to her, she said that the soccer team lost in sudden death OT, so that kind of put a damper on the mood of her friends at the dance.

I'm just sorry I didn't get to see her dressed up cause I got home from work too late and by that time, she was ready to take a shower. Hopefully I'll see the pictures. Then my DH, who had been keeping me awake w/ his loud snoring, heard me get up and says "I can't believe she is taking a shower at 12:30 a.m." Well, I can understand it if you are dancing and sweaty, you want to take a quick shower before getting into bed. As if it was going to keep him awake anyway--he went right back to sleep. He must have a quota of complaints that he has to get in every day.