Housework help

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Housework help
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Tue, 08-09-2011 - 1:37pm

I know this issue is covered somewhere here, but I couldn’t find anything so here goes.

I’ve been married 22 years, and we have two kids ages 15 and 21. I work full time (and attend college in the evening three nights a week). My husband used to work full time, but now basically works part time (seasonal). I have always done ALL the housework (he does occasional pick up), and we share the cooking. I also do all the other “family business” type stuff, kid taxi, school issues, pets to vet/grooming, etc. The kids don’t do a whole lot as far as housework other than dinner clean up, cleaning their rooms, occasional vacumming, pet clean up, etc. Our oldest is 21 and works part to full time, and does not attend school, if that means anything.

My husband knows that I like to do laundry, so I’ve never asked anyone to do it, although our 15 yr old daughter occasionally does her own. My husband made a comment the other day (after I had made a comment about how we (key word "we") have let the yard “go”, weeds, etc.), he said that “well quite frequently I don’t have clean laundry.” (saying it with a “tone”, attitude, you know). I was completely taken aback and insulted. I do laundry at least three to four times a week, and he “frequently” doesn’t have clean clothes? Seriously? UUUgggg, I told him, maybe it’s because he only owns three pair of underwear.

So, I told him, that “from now on I’m only doing my own laundry. I’ve been doing everyone’s laundry for 25 years, and I think now it’s time everyone does their own.” Of course, he gets very mad, yelling, and tells me that he’s done cooking dinner, and everyone has to cook their own dinner. He’s very hard to have a argument with, because he just gets mad and yells. Help....

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 7:39am
kimmybabe2009 wrote:

While at Wal-mart you might get a lovely TEDDY for yourself and tell DH that if you weren't so tired from being a maid, you might feel like wearing this more often.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 9:03am
kimmybabe2009 wrote:

While at Wal-mart you might get a lovely TEDDY for yourself and tell DH that if you weren't so tired from being a maid, you might feel like wearing this more often.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 9:05am
Sabr, we had a housekeeper that came every 3 weeks for about 9 months after I had the youngest one and was back to work full time, it was the best investment EVER!! I also miss that the most...
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