How to deal with 'I hate you mom'
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|Sun, 02-12-2012 - 1:11pm|
Without getting into too much background (there is a lot)...I have a 16 year old daughter. Her dad and I have been divorced for over 7 years. He has remarried, and I am engaged. I also have a 12 year old son...and two soon to be 'step' sons ages 9 and 10.
My daughter is a smart girl...highest grades in her class, well on her way to be Valedictorian. She is funny and normally a wonderful joy to be around. The problem? I told her that when I got my tax refund, that I would get her a laptop. She really needs one for school. I got my refund about a week ago...she has found a laptop she wants. Her words...'it's pretty'. However, it's a bit expensive. AND, only the display is left. I have a problem getting a display model when it comes to laptops...people are not easy on them in the stores. She is visiting her dad this weekend...he took her to look at dresses for prom. Why he does that when he isn't when he can't afford to buy her one, IDK.. Anyway...she found one...for almost $400. Ok, I am a bargain hunter...she knows this. Why she thought I'd even consider paying that much for a dress she's only gonna wear once is beyond me. Anyway...she posted on facebook yesterday that she hates people who don't keep their promises. All of her posts come directly to my phone. I texted her and asked if she was upset about the laptop or the dress. She said both. I said I agree that I promised to get a laptop...however, I did not agree to get her THAT laptop and I did not agree to get it 'right this second'.
My question is...regardless of how you feel about teens having laptops or anything...have you ever had to deal with 'I hate you' scenario and how did you do it? She and I have always been very close...she has never given me a moments trouble in her 16 1/2 years. If anything, I figured it would be her brother that would do this. I am so hurt that I cried myself to sleep last night..and I never cry. I don't know how to deal with this...I feel like all I am to her is a bank...I realize a lot of teenagers treat their parents this way..but it is so out of character for her. She's always been 'mama's girl'...I'm just...devistated and don't know what to do.
Any advice you have will be appreciated...