How to discipline a teen who can leave anytime he wants?
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|Thu, 05-12-2011 - 9:22am|
My boyfriend and his ex-wife divorced several years ago. They have joint custody of their younger son, who is 15 years old. He is free to stay at whichever house he pleases and often rides his bike between the two (they're only a couple of miles apart).
Because of this arrangement, my boyfriend has difficulty disciplining his 15-year-old son. If his son doesn't like what's happening at my boyfriend's house, he can leave for his mom's house. According to my boyfriend, his ex-wife is not nearly as on top of discipline and making sure school work gets done.
The main problems we've faced lately are that he started smoking, didn't finish a big assignment for one of his classes (that he obviously enjoys), and spends more time at his mom's when he's supposed to spend 5 days a week with his dad (which is a problem when he doesn't eat well and absorbs her irresponsible behavior).
How do we get him back on track and maintain reasonable discipline when he can avoid it so easily?