How old were you?

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How old were you?
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 12:35pm

All of this talk today about our kids wanting to include their bfs or gfs in family celebrations made me wonder about how old we were when we met our significant others. We think that these teen romances aren't very important and will only last a few weeks or months, but is that necessarily so?


I was still 17 when I met my DH, and it's hard for me to fathom that at 16, my DD is almost the same age that I was then! (Of course, I was already in college, but that's another story.) We didn't get married until after college and graduate school, when we were in our mid-twenties, but we did find each other at a very early age!


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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 12:44pm

I was 21 or 22 when I met dh.


Everyone in dh's family (in the town where I live) were all high school sweethearts and it's definitely not unheard of.




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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 12:49pm

Sorry; I was 29 when I met dh.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 12:55pm
I was almost 22 when I met dh - I had just graduated college and he had just gotten out of the army.
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 1:08pm

I really and truly believe that it's those early puppy loves and short term relationships that lay the foundation for the later, more serious relationships. I think we learn a lot from the relationships we share when we're in our late teens and early 20's. I know people who have been with no one except each other, since hs or even jr high and they couldn't be happier - they don't feel they missed out on anything. That's wonderful for them, but I had always hoped that my daughters would gain a little relationship experience before settling down with one man for life. But that's me.


I'm grateful for my earlier relationships and cherish the memories I hold in my heart, even the one with

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 1:19pm

I met my future husband a few months before my 18th birthday.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:06pm

Let's see...I was around 23 when I was with my boyfriend and met DH and his girlfriend at another friends apartment (was that hard to follow LOL). We were friends for a year before we decided that we needed to be together. We've been married for almost 19 years now (after living together for three).

Lisa

P.S. I am definately not ready to see DS, 17 next week, stay with this "true love." I hope he has many more before he settles down for good.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:13pm

I guess I started early.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:41pm

I met DH when I was 24. We married 3 yrs later(lived together about 2 of those)

My first love was the summer after high school(I was 17)We were VERY serious and marriage was planned and the first two kids were named. His family didnt approve of me which is why those discussions are often 'hot button' for me. They had very strict male/female roles which I didnt quite fit. And I am day dreamy-the type of person who can be thought of as rude when really they're just off in la-la land and dont even notice there is someone in the room to be rude to-LOL

It bothers me that the boys(who are late bloomers like me)have taken their first loves so seriously. Having married at 27 and 29 after a good many relationships(especially for DH)it seems out of whack

BUT.....I would have married that first love in a heartbeat had he not ended it so maybe it isnt so out of whack. And DH was dropped a few times too although he surely will not admit it!

It's less painful to think I married late because I was mature than to think I married late because I was dumped! And, looking back, the hurt made for a long time of not allowing myself to fall in love again.(my mother was sure I would be an old maid-in 82, 27 was ancient)

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 3:08pm
Met my DH when I was 28.
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 3:16pm

Good question.


I met the Queen when I was...well....

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