how to tell teen I used a surrogate?

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Registered: 08-11-2007
how to tell teen I used a surrogate?
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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 7:30am
My two children after I couldn't get pregnant after conceiving first son were born through surrogacy.
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Registered: 08-17-2005
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 12:49pm

In my opinion this is a great time to have conversations about how the love between a parent and a child is not strictly biological.

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 2:14pm

"What I suggest is for you to get into counseling to deal with your feelings over this surrogacy.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 8:46pm
The surrogate's attitude here frankly shocks me. I don't understand why anyone would enter INTO a surrogacy agreement with such an attitude of secrecy and shame. It almost makes me think that you SHOULD wait until they are older - if they are going to want to meet her and she is going to reject them, that would be hurtful. The daughter that I had knows my name and has pictures and such
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 9:05pm
We lived in a large city when both children were born--our close friends and family knew the circumstances.
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 9:23pm
Thanks so much for your comments.
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 9:55pm
thanks!
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 10:07pm
There is no way I could ever withhold the truth from my children.
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 11:51pm
No, the daughter you had will not be mad at you.
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Registered: 08-25-2000
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 5:36pm

As a parent of an adoptive child, I feel that the children should have been told years ago about their birth in an age appropriate way.
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:12pm

thank you.