how to tell teen I used a surrogate?

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Registered: 08-11-2007
how to tell teen I used a surrogate?
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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 7:30am
My two children after I couldn't get pregnant after conceiving first son were born through surrogacy.

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:51pm

They should know eventually. Everyone has a right to know their genetic history.
However, they are probably too young now. I would wait to tell them when they are able to understand. But one day they will have to know since there are genetic implications.

You can solve your problem (for now) but accepting the child as your grandchild. It doesn't matter where the child came from. Natural or not, the child is now part of your family.
If you do this when the time comes to tell your two other kid then they will KNOW that family is more than biology.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 8:43am

I'm going to toss this out there, I think it might be a bit relavent, though I don't know how much help.


S, one of our 23 y/o DSs is a foster son who never left.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:51pm
Yeah, that's quite different than my situation in a way since I did it for a friend
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Registered: 04-30-2000
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:09pm
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Registered: 04-30-2000
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:15pm
I was wondering how the situation with your son is.
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Registered: 08-25-2000
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:37pm

Maybe you can find some answers here:


Parents Through A.R.T. (Assisted Reproduction Technology): PTA-L is a group of people who have come together to share parenting advise and discuss the issues related to raising children born via assisted reproduction. http://www.surrogacy.com/online_support/

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 5:08pm
Hey, Thanks for asking! Yes, he is back, and he ended up being gone for less than a month.
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Registered: 08-11-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 7:12pm
Thank you--that is good advice, especially because it is true.

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