How's are our rising seniors doing?

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How's are our rising seniors doing?
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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 9:19pm

i know there's a few of you with rising seniors coming up here pretty soon, or maybe school started where you live.

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Tue, 09-27-2011 - 2:19pm

I agree that as unfortunate as it sounds, it's better for you to back off and if he doesn't get into college, oh well, you offered to help him right?

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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 8:24pm

I have not BTDT with this situation.

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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 12:48pm
Yeah, who knows what may happen if it's realized above as far as your current boss goes - the guy who took over our dept back in late '05 got let go last year, and this place NEVER lets people go (I don't mean layoffs; I mean personnel issues). Many people rejoiced! :o)
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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 11:55am

This incident yesterday really has shown me how immature he really is.

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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 9:55am

Since (per my email) it seems like your ds is very similar to mine, perhaps it's because he's a little intimidated about college and life after the routine he's has in grade-high school. DS ended up only applying to one local college; his backup being the CC. (Luckily it was a very good school so I knew it'd be a good fit) He only did that app, and it was like pulling teeth, but I told him they did rolling admissions (not early decision or early enrollment) so he could know as early as Oct his sr year and then relax the rest of the year, which then got him off his duff and he completed it. He got notification early in October and was then MUCH more psyched to get out of HS (he hated it) and into college (which has been a MUCH better fit).

Good luck on the job front - I changed depts after 14 years; it may not be as intellectually stimulating but the group is much 'healthier'! I'm back (in the last 3 years) to wanting to go every day!

Sue

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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 9:45am

Hey conmama - glad you didn't have to have the angry conversation about visiting the gf and that's great news on the job front! I know how stressful it's been at work for you. As hard as it is to step back and potentially see your kid fail I think you and your dh are doing the right thing by backing off the college app process. The fact that he's not even opened the emails he's gotten along with the fact that he was pretty passive in your conversation about the whole process indicates that he's not all that gung-ho about going off to college, at least for the right reasons. If he can't get organized enough to get the paperwork in order I'm not sure he's ready to be on his own managing 12-15 hours of college courses. Perhaps he'll surprise you at the last minute and get it together, get everything turned in, turn his grades around, and have a shot at going away. And you've made it clear that you're more than willing to be there to help, bounce ideas off, etc. But if he ends up at the CC or working for a year it doesn't mean he can't ever go away to school. As fullmom keeps saying - his choice. You know he's smart enough to do it just as I know Justin was smart enough to handle college, especially the state school and community college he attended. But it also takes some level of motivation and commitment, even in the lower level classes. And if your ds doesn't have that it's just going to be a frustrating experience for everyone.

Thanks for the update and keep us posted on that as well as the job situation. And btw how is your younger ds adjusting to high school?

Pam
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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 7:34am

First off, I agree completely with Fullmom!

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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 10:14pm

to jjjlejs,

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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 10:13pm

me too conmama, but everything you and DH are doing is real life and just what your son needs.

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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 1:28pm

LOL let me know when you're going to drop that bomb on him and I'll have a glass of wine, too, and think of you! Can't wait to hear about it. It does show you've raised him well, though, from the way he acts around other people at least! Sounds like he did everything right after the fender bender. Justin is still paying us back the $800 deductible for totalling the car in June after he'd been drinking. We, too, are letting him pay some out of each of his pay checks. I think that really was a wake up call for him, though, He was very distraught that night and he doesn't drink much at all anymore; when he does have some beers here he'll voluntarily give us the keys before we go to bed. Hang in there. I can see some glimpses of maturity in Justin and for the most part he seems to be making better choices these days. I think your ds will get there, too.

Pam

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