Hurting

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Hurting
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Registered: 02-14-2007
In reply to: kacha123
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 6:37pm
I am sorry you are in this difficult situation. If it were me, I'd move in a heartbeat to be with my DD. I wouldn't give up custody for anything. It's probably in her best interests not to have to move to another state and a new high school, if at all possible. Obviously, her father isn't doing a very good job parenting her. She needs a strong parent to set some limits for her and guide her through the teen years. Fifteen is still pretty young!
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Registered: 12-24-2006
In reply to: kacha123
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 8:04pm

My son once got into so much trouble at school that he was thrown into alternative school, so I sent him to my mother's for a semester instead.


The school was happy to take a paper that I'd signed giving my mother the right to make legal decisions regarding school.

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Registered: 07-22-2003
In reply to: kacha123
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 8:20pm

I don't see how the school can force you to give up custody. If she is living in the school district, that should be all they are concerned with. I would consult my

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kacha123
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 8:51pm

The only thing that is claiming you have custody is a piece of paper at this point. She already lives with her father, you've basically handed over custody to him in every way except in the eyes of the court. What would be the difference if you signed over legal custody to her father at this point?


Before considering what the next move is, decide what you want out of this situation. Do you want your dd with you? Do you want to move her in with you and go through all the probable upsets that will come with it? Are you afraid of making a decision she will not be happy with because you're afraid she will take her own life? Do you feel like you're being held captive by the possibility that she will go through with it?


Is she under the care of a DR who can help her through a move like this?


There are so many questions here before you can make a decision.


My brother and his wife assigned legal guardianship of my niece

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Registered: 11-13-2004
In reply to: kacha123
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 12:53am
As heartsandroses writes, there are WAY too many questions here. It appears that between you and your ex, you are the
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: kacha123
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 1:13pm

I think that after 2 yrs of living w/ her father, she is not going to want to move to another state and leave her friends to be w/ you.

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Registered: 12-24-2006
In reply to: kacha123
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:15pm

<< Does she have a history of depression or do you think she is just playing you because you are afraid to be a parent.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: kacha123
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:45pm

Wow.

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Registered: 12-24-2006
In reply to: kacha123
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:02pm

Oh man... you're right.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: kacha123
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:18pm

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend.

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