I AM losing it! Daughter sleeping her youth away.

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Registered: 06-04-2003
I AM losing it! Daughter sleeping her youth away.
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Wed, 04-11-2012 - 3:15pm

To make a long story short. My daighter (19) has always been a good sleeper since she was an infant. FF to teens, I always had a hard time getting her up and out for school on time. FF to now, College, WORK. She misses work constantly for oversleeping. She has re-arranged her class schedule 2 semesters because she couldnt make the 7:30, 9:30 classes she registered for.

She was diagnosed with low iron anemia about 2 years ago, which explains her fatigue. But this is now getting out of hand. She has gone to the doctor, gotten blood tests, refuses to see about a sleep study. And she HATES taking meds, so her iron pills are not being taken consistantly.

I don't know what to do, She is over 18 so doctors/anyone really wont talk to me about her anymore. I have asked if she is depressed, which results in an argument. Asked her to see a therapist or someone to talk to. I am at the end of the road. I don't know how to help her. She is now making less money than she was in High School. She will soon not have $ for her expenses and I have vowed NOT to give her any. I already pay for her basic living expenses.

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Thanks. And since they wont talk to me, even with her there I stopped going with her. And for a second I though maybe she wants mom there. I will suggest the college resources idea. :)
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Registered: 03-17-2012

Try a different approach when it comes to getting her to go to the doctor. Maybe she's still experiencing teen rebellion and doesn't want the hassle of going to a doctor that's out of the way (or GASP, with her mom!) Many universities offer free or severely discounted doctors/psychologist visits right on campus. It's easy for her to get to, she doesn't have to worry about insurance papers, and she can do it independently.

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Registered: 06-04-2003

Yes. She sometimes has a hard time falling asleep.

I have to succeed in convincing her to pursue the sleep study. Her symptoms to me sound like sleep apnea. I have to believe that It must be something more than just stubborness and laziness. But be careful what you wish for, right? :/

Thanks to all who replied. Your input as always is greatly appreciated. :)

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I don't think it's just anemia--I was anemic for a while & didn't know it--the tiredness I felt was more w/ activity.

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Registered: 12-16-2001

Sleep study is a good start.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Depression and other mental and physical health issues are at the top of the list for causing this, but as you know, since she is over 18, your choices are limited. If I were you, I would tell her that you can no longer help support her because she does not care to take the necessary steps to figure out what is wrong so she can support herself. Give her an end date for support, and tell her she must move out UNLESS she agrees to go WITH YOU to a psychiatrist for a full mental and physical workup.