Aw, Julie, sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. I feel like I always get too emotionally caught up in my kids' social lives, but I guess it's pretty normal. (I was upset last night because my DD didn't sit with her boyfriend at a band dinner! How stupid is that?!) I hope you know that none of this is your fault at all! What could any of it have to do with how you raised your DS? I'm positive that you've done a super job. We're all just doing the best we can. Don't take on the responsibility for what that ex-GF is doing. That's her choice, not yours. Hang in there & vent here as much as you need to!
{{{Julie}}} Oh my goodness, the mother's pain when their children are in pain - it's unbearable. I'm so sorry that you're son is feeling so low and going through such a hard. And, in turn, creating such sorrowful feelings for you.
You can only do the best you can - under any circumstance. You have done that; please stop questioning if you've given him the appropriate tools he needs to cope because each and every one of us at some point or another will have to cope with something that seems insurmountable....but somehow we get through it.
Just be there for ds. Let him know you are empathizing with him and talk him up a bit. Let him know that you think he can get through this, that he IS strong and that for now he has to rely on his family and best friends (the true ones who stick around) to get through this. He may have to go through a time without any friends to lean on, but let him know that he can draw from various family members. Take him out to help holiday shop for the family. Take him to a movie. Make fun memories so that when he reflects on this time, it isn't all bad. Encourage him to call on an acquaintance in the hopes of creating a closer friendship.
Hopefully with the upcoming school break this crap will blow over and things will be better in the new year. Gentle hugs for your hurting mommy heart♥
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From one Julie to another ....
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Aw, Julie, sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. I feel like I always get too emotionally caught up in my kids' social lives, but I guess it's pretty normal. (I was upset last night because my DD didn't sit with her boyfriend at a band dinner! How stupid is that?!) I hope you know that none of this is your fault at all! What could any of it have to do with how you raised your DS? I'm positive that you've done a super job. We're all just doing the best we can. Don't take on the responsibility for what that ex-GF is doing. That's her choice, not yours. Hang in there & vent here as much as you need to!
Thanks for the "hugs" Sue :)
Sending many hugs for both you and Max.
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) right back at you Julie :)
Thanks EJ...as I read these posts back to me...I'm sitting here crying LOL...I can't believe myself LOL
Thanks Pam :)
It sucks that your son has to go through this.
{{{Julie}}} Oh my goodness, the mother's pain when their children are in pain - it's unbearable. I'm so sorry that you're son is feeling so low and going through such a hard. And, in turn, creating such sorrowful feelings for you.
You can only do the best you can - under any circumstance. You have done that; please stop questioning if you've given him the appropriate tools he needs to cope because each and every one of us at some point or another will have to cope with something that seems insurmountable....but somehow we get through it.
Just be there for ds. Let him know you are empathizing with him and talk him up a bit. Let him know that you think he can get through this, that he IS strong and that for now he has to rely on his family and best friends (the true ones who stick around) to get through this. He may have to go through a time without any friends to lean on, but let him know that he can draw from various family members. Take him out to help holiday shop for the family. Take him to a movie. Make fun memories so that when he reflects on this time, it isn't all bad. Encourage him to call on an acquaintance in the hopes of creating a closer friendship.
Hopefully with the upcoming school break this crap will blow over and things will be better in the new year. Gentle hugs for your hurting mommy heart♥
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