I am Soooo Mad!

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Registered: 12-22-2003
I am Soooo Mad!
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 5:32pm

DS got a deficiency notice today!!! From his PE coach! I've posted about DS here before, he's not a teen yet, but you all have been here already with your boys so maybe you have some advice.

Since the first day of school, DS has been making himself sick worrying about his runs each week. He is chubby and not in the greatest physical shape. We have been assuring him all along that PE is all about participation. That if he dresses out and participates, that's all the coaches want and he should just stop worrying. And then he gets a deficiency! He is pretending he is not upset, but I can tell he is!

To make it worse, the coach gave him a "Needs Improvement" for his effort. Now, DS has 6th period PE and he gets to the car at the end of the day all red faced, hot and sweaty so I KNOW he is exerting a great deal of effort. I also know he tries his best to make his time in that run, but he's just not in shape for it. The deficiency also indicated his current grade in PE was in the C-D range! He had straight A's on his 1st quarter report card and now a C? He missed all his runs last week because he was home sick with bronchitis so when he makes them up, the grade should come up.

Should I just sign the stupid deficiency and send it back without saying anything? Or should do contact the coach and talk to him about it?

Thanks for any advice you might have!

Edited 12/15/2005 6:21 pm ET by julesnalpine




Edited 12/15/2005 6:22 pm ET by julesnalpine

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 11:05am

Julie,
I have to echo what Daddioe said, although I doubt that I can do it with the same eloquence.

As the daughter of an anorexic and the mom of a child who really struggles with her willpower when it comes to food, I have learned that weight/food/body image/willpower to be a hugecly complicated personal issue that no amount of love or good intentions can address.

We are all - to some degree -imperfect parents but this one, my dear, is NOT your fault.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 11:06am
amen.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2003
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 1:21pm
DITTO, DITTO, DITTO!

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