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| Thu, 02-16-2006 - 1:03am |
I’m just sitting here late at night getting my taxes ready for the accountants tomorrow.....minding my own business.....having a cup of tea.....feeling grumpy for sending too much money to Uncle Sam...
When I come across the CD title that weenie boy was playing in his car when he drove DD and a friend to a ski park a few weeks ago.
So.....this is sort of an unusual title to a song.....and taxes are pretty boring..... so I decide to enter this song into a lyrics search.
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/a/afroman/4517
gee.....I don’t even know where to begin..
The moron who wrote this apparently is considered an “artist.”
The idiots who played this apparently are considered “musicians.”
Weenie boy really knows how to sweep a girl off her feet with this stuff.
How romantic...
I am so livid right now I must stop typing.

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I don't think you would have a better perspective, only a different one. But really, when it all comes down to it, it's about letting go of the little things and trusting your daughter. I know that many out there do think the "little things" are a big deal, but from what I gather, if you blow the "little
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ROFL Pam! Sheltered??? I dare say that's putting it lightly! Not to make fun of it (sometimes I wish *I* had lived a little more sheltered life) but I didn't realize just how far apart we really are in terms of how we grew up.
And I'm such a responsible, reliable parent now. :)
Wolverine,
All I can say is I can't wait until you have teens of your own!
You are right about not dealing with the issue at hand - I agree wholeheartedly. Instead of killing the messenger, start at home, with dd and weenieboy. If the concern is about dd sleeping around or allowing weenieboy to take advantage of her, then the focus should be on teaching dd how to protect herself and have some self respect, perhaps minimizing time spent with weenieboy, etc. I agree with that - the #1 response to a teen's misguided behavior should definitely begin with the teen, not outside sources.
However, that said, I do also think that much of the decision making done by our teens (with thier under developed frontal lobes) is influenced by outside sources, such as tv, the media in general and musical lyrics, etc. It is naive to believe the a parent's perspective and the moral upbringing that parent provides to the teen will win out everytime when it comes to making choices and decisions along with friends.
As a parent, we DO have the respsonsibility to censure some of what our kids are exposed to, whether we agree with the idea of censurship or not - it's just a fact. Just because we've told our teens that smoking pot can lead to other drugs doesn't mean that they will always make the right choice when it comes down to thier best bud offering them a bowl. Likewise, it seems to me that daddio's dd is compromising her self respect and sense of self by listening to degrading and filthy music when she's with weenieboy. I think that happens all the time with teens - heck, it happens all the time with everyone. We're so afraid of taking a stand against something that we don't like or agree with, that we settle and allow things to occur that degrade us or make us 'less than' in the eyes of others. What level of respect do you think weeneiboy has in general towards woman? If I had to guess I'd say it was very low based on what daddio has shared with us about him.
You're right, in 5 years this may not even show up on the radar in dd's life, but maybe it will. Maybe her relationship with weenieboy will take a wild twist that will lead her to dating a string of men who have no regard for her as a woman and always treat her like a discarded toy; maybe she will wind up in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship because it's been drummed into her head that it's okay to be degraded as a woman or for men to be intolerant of women as a whole. Then again, as you said, maybe because she was raised by daddio, she will shed all this crap along with weenieboy and go on to be a self confident and strong young woman who doesn't put up with anyone's BS. You just never know, wolverine, and that's why it IS important to censure some of what's out there for our teens - because they don't always know the consequences or 'side effects' of listening to degrading or rude music, watching porn with thier BF's, or engaging in risque behavior just for fun, at an age when they can't differentiate between appropriate behavior and inappropriate behavior for themselves.
I think you will make a great parent one day - you have an open mind about things and you're very well educated - you've lived on your own at a young age and yet you still respect parental and authoritative figures and that is a sure sign of maturity in my opinion.
I don't know, I think parents raise their teens much like they themselves were raised. I can't remember ever really thinking that my parents didn't "get it." I never much got into rap music, but I did listen to quite a bit of stuff with questionable lyrics... it was actually my mom who bought me my first Marilyn Manson CD. It was also my mom who stood by when I got my first piercings at 13 and 16, and then my first tattoo at 17 (even though she wasn't thrilled about me getting any of them). My dad on the other hand, was the one who talked my mom into letting me go to my first punk rock concert at 14 without parental supervision.
Well, I hope you're right. It sounds like you have a great attitude and as long as age doesn't come on you and throw the blanket of conservatism on you, you'll be okay. I just have to laugh when over the years I've seen public personas make such an about-face as they get older. You're too young to remember most of them, but take Madonna for instance, now advising others on the best way to raise kids? C'mon! Rolling her eyes at the antics of Britney Spears and other who imitated her and followed in her footsteps, but no, they've gone "too far". Huh? There are many others who feel differently when they become parents, most of them not public people. I can't tell you how many parents I know who are super strict with their kids, simply because their own parents were too lenient with them. Not to say your parents were, their values were obviously different than my own, but they were strict within their own values.
I'll give you an example of a dear male friend of mine, now the father of 3 wild daughters. He told me that he once told his mother, "I love to smoke pot and you can't stop me. Do you want me to hate you?" to which his poor mom, single mother to 3 wild sons caved and said, "You're right. I don't want you to hate me, so you might as well smoke but only in your room." My friend now feels he was a real punk for saying that to his mother. Although he wouldn't object to his own dd smoking pot, I asked him how he would feel if his dd would say: "I love having sex with boys in my bedroom and you can't stop me. Do you want me to hate you?" or you could do the same with: "I love and you can't stop me. Do you want me to hate you?"
Do you know what my wild male friend now thinks he would tell his own dd? "Fine, go ahead and hate me."
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